My (new) update thread. GUESS WHO HAS GIRL FEELINGS AGAIN

[DC Al Fine]

All women are capable of getting angry, even the sweet ones, unless they have no backbone, then you don't want them anyway.

Also, if you aren't satisfied with your current girlfriend, then break up with her regardless of whether you date this Christian girl or not. You need to keep in mind that she is a super Christian though and you are not. Can you handle that? She may not even want to date you if she is super serious about her faith. Again, I do realize that you both are 17, so my advice may not be any good.

Well I do love my girlfriend with all of my heart, it's just getting difficult considering we hardly ever talk anymore.

But I think my main problem if I were to actually date her (by some miracle) is that I'm a really...horny individual. I'm pretty sure that the Bible says "thou shalt not blow emos" so that pretty much f's me.

Proof that I am literally a freaking weirdo:

You need a heavy dose of game my man.

Be confident, be a bit of jerk, and don't self-deprecate. Hitting the weights will help as well if you aren't doing that already.

[DC Al Fine]

You need a heavy dose of game my man.

Be confident, be a bit of jerk, and don't self-deprecate. Hitting the weights will help as well if you aren't doing that already.

I still fail to see why people think that works a majority of the time.

Perhaps I'm not articulating it right. I don't mean that Carl should walk up to her and go "Sup bitch!", but my experience is that some gentle teasing works quite well.


To Carl, you're setting yourself up for a fall here. Play to your strengths. Christian girl is looking for something that you aren't and if you do manage to date her, there will be pressure to end it from her parents, church friends etc.

The thing is, most of my friends are girls. It's been that way my entire life. I've always been closer to my mom and grandmom than anyone else. It baffles me that I'm unable to simply tell a girl she looked cute without sounding like a total tool. Regardless, I think I'm going to end up breaking up with my girlfriend within a month's time, considering we talked last night for about 10 minutes and it was the most uncomfortable feeling I've had with her involved. I'm going to do the good guy thing and give it time.

As for the girl at my school, today she looked cute as heck (again) and I planned on saying something to her

She saw me in the halls, smiled, said hello, and I managed to...

Apologize profusely for being so freaking weird.

Do something super basic that can't be screwed up.

Girl: "Hi Carl"
Carl: "Hi ___ how are you?"
Girl: "Good, I'm [insert something about her life]"
Carl: Cool

[DC Al Fine]

Update: I found out today through a mutual friend of ours that the girl at my school does not have any interest in dating me, as she only dates Christian boys. Bummer.

That sucks Carl. Time to regroup and start flirting with irreligious girls.

[DC Al Fine]

I don't really know what to do with new girl. As for your ex, don't respond. She's just trying to goad you.

[DC Al Fine]

Never do a FWB with someone you may actually want to date. Do you want to date or do you just want to mess around?

Can i pick date and then mess around

It's hard to transition from one to the other.

[DC Al Fine]

You really aren't mature enough to date anyone to be honest. It isn't all about sex, although that's part of it. Don't get into a relationship if that's all your after though. Just find a FWB and sleep with her whenever you want, but don't expect her to listen to your problems nor should she have to listen to yours.

But sex isn't everything. I like the cuddly mushy stupid stuff more than sex that's the point.

I'll believe that when you've had a long term relationship.

To add to what Duke said: You veer from one idea on a pedestal to another. Even the "cuddly mushy stupid stuff" seems like its on a pedestal. Trust me, dealing with someone else's problems is a mix of drudgery and hard work. You have to be mature and you have to be with the right person for it to work.