Update for Everyone VII: Insert Something Philosophical Sounding Here

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I got turned down romantically a few weeks ago but it doesn't seem to have damaged my friendship with her, at least not so far.

I know the feeling- the same thing happened to me with a girl from my church in July, but we're still good friends.  I'm always one who tries to salvage a friendship with a girl I try to ask out if she is willing to do the same.

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Was only Voter #5 in my precinct when I went to vote in our mayoral election this morning before work (the incumbent Republican mayor is running unopposed).  There are some contested alderman races, but it's all non-partisan, which probably makes people not know who to vote for.

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Starting Nutrisystem in the morning.  I'm nervous (and sad as I am finishing off my "final feast"), but I know I need to make a change.  I need to lose at least 100 pounds, if not a little more.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

Starting Nutrisystem in the morning.  I'm nervous (and sad as I am finishing off my "final feast"), but I know I need to make a change.  I need to lose at least 100 pounds, if not a little more.

Through 3 days on Nutrisystem.  Some of the foods are good and some aren't, but I'm managing so far (except momentarily when I see a commercial for something yummy on TV).

[100% pro-life no matter what]

Starting Nutrisystem in the morning.  I'm nervous (and sad as I am finishing off my "final feast"), but I know I need to make a change.  I need to lose at least 100 pounds, if not a little more.

Through 3 days on Nutrisystem.  Some of the foods are good and some aren't, but I'm managing so far (except momentarily when I see a commercial for something yummy on TV).

Week 1 down- and I lost FIFTEEN POUNDS!

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

You are losing weight at a very rapid pace, please be careful.

It really hasn't been that rapid (apart from week 1, which was really losing the bloat and low hanging fruit) when you remember that my weight is like twice of a "normal person", so it's not that much percentage wise.  And, it's not like I'm starving myself or something.   Someone my age and weight could burn 3000 calories in a day without getting out of bed, but the problem was that I was used to 4000+ calories a day.  On Nutrisystem, I'm averaging about 1250, except for the occasional treat.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

ER, if you don't mind me asking, how tall are you?

6'5"

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I kind of wish we had caucuses instead of primaries.  They look like a lot of fun to partake in.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I've gotten myself into a tough situation from the opposite place I usually am:

So, last week, I decided to give a try to the new Facebook Dating feature.  On Sunday, I matched with this girl, and we started to text.  On paper, it seems like a really good fit- she seems like a very strong Christian, she has some similar interests, we have talked over text about all of the moral issues, etc.  But, tonight is the night that we are supposed to get dinner, and I'm just feeling like I'm not interested at all.

Part of it is something that I probably overlooked at first.  She's 20 and I'm 23; I didn't view that as a big deal at first, but, the more I think about it, she is a sophomore in college and I've been out of college for a year and a half.  We are just at completely different stages in our lives.  When I text with her, I'm starting to feel that majorly for some reason.  But, I think there is something else at play here too- every night, I go to bed thinking about a girl from my church, not this girl I'm supposed to get dinner with.  The problem is that I know that my friend from church (who is still a very good friend) isn't interested because I asked her in July.  So, I feel like I have to move on, but, when I try, I can only think of her.

The other side of this is that it's not that often that I get dates, so now that I have a girl who seems like a very sweet and nice person interested in going out with me, part of me feels like I would be making a big mistake by turning it down.  Regardless, it's too close to the date to cancel without being a total jerk, so maybe it will go better than I expect it to.  I've never met her, so maybe I am underselling her based solely on texts.

I want a wife and kids so badly, and every other time I have gone out to eat with a girl even when it wasn't explicitly a date, I was so excited, but I just feel nothing this time.  And, I fear, that, as much as I want to make excuses of why she isn't the perfect girl, the real reason is that I have such strong feelings for a girl from my church that I know I can't date.

If you are of the sort, please say a prayer for me!

I wound up going out on three dates with that girl from FB Dating and then later went out on six dates with a girl from Christian Mingle before things weren't progressing.

If you had asked me three months ago, I would have said without blinking that I had moved on from that girl from my church, but, since I ended things in early January with the girl I went on 6 dates with, my feelings for that girl from my church have come back with a vengeance.  My friendship with her is in a really good spot, and I don't want to throw it out by asking her out again.  But, at the same time, seven months have passed, I'm a lot less fat than I was then, and I feel like things have been really good the last few times I've seen her (though that could just be in a friends way).  I really don't know what to do.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I've gotten myself into a tough situation from the opposite place I usually am:

So, last week, I decided to give a try to the new Facebook Dating feature.  On Sunday, I matched with this girl, and we started to text.  On paper, it seems like a really good fit- she seems like a very strong Christian, she has some similar interests, we have talked over text about all of the moral issues, etc.  But, tonight is the night that we are supposed to get dinner, and I'm just feeling like I'm not interested at all.

Part of it is something that I probably overlooked at first.  She's 20 and I'm 23; I didn't view that as a big deal at first, but, the more I think about it, she is a sophomore in college and I've been out of college for a year and a half.  We are just at completely different stages in our lives.  When I text with her, I'm starting to feel that majorly for some reason.  But, I think there is something else at play here too- every night, I go to bed thinking about a girl from my church, not this girl I'm supposed to get dinner with.  The problem is that I know that my friend from church (who is still a very good friend) isn't interested because I asked her in July.  So, I feel like I have to move on, but, when I try, I can only think of her.

The other side of this is that it's not that often that I get dates, so now that I have a girl who seems like a very sweet and nice person interested in going out with me, part of me feels like I would be making a big mistake by turning it down.  Regardless, it's too close to the date to cancel without being a total jerk, so maybe it will go better than I expect it to.  I've never met her, so maybe I am underselling her based solely on texts.

I want a wife and kids so badly, and every other time I have gone out to eat with a girl even when it wasn't explicitly a date, I was so excited, but I just feel nothing this time.  And, I fear, that, as much as I want to make excuses of why she isn't the perfect girl, the real reason is that I have such strong feelings for a girl from my church that I know I can't date.

If you are of the sort, please say a prayer for me!

I wound up going out on three dates with that girl from FB Dating and then later went out on six dates with a girl from Christian Mingle before things weren't progressing.

If you had asked me three months ago, I would have said without blinking that I had moved on from that girl from my church, but, since I ended things in early January with the girl I went on 6 dates with, my feelings for that girl from my church have come back with a vengeance.  My friendship with her is in a really good spot, and I don't want to throw it out by asking her out again.  But, at the same time, seven months have passed, I'm a lot less fat than I was then, and I feel like things have been really good the last few times I've seen her (though that could just be in a friends way).  I really don't know what to do.

Get drunk with her and see if she wants to hook up.

Given that neither of us drink at all, that's unlikely (not to mention the issue with hook-ups)

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One of my friends tried to ambush me into a blind date with a Warren campaign volunteer. Sad!

Avoided a potential social connection with another human being. Mission accomplished.

I’m not even looking or interested. He told her about me and solely according to him she was somehow interested which makes no sense already, even after he told her I’m muslim (she is jewish), so I think it probably had to be a joke or whatever anyways.

Jews can be attracted to non-Jews

I'm not Muslim or Jewish, but I think I understand what Bagel's point was.  For people who find religion to be very important in their lives, it is often an imperative that a potential spouse have the same religious views.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

2/14: 329.4
2/21: 327.2
2/28: 323.4
3/6: 318.4

Now down 42 pounds!!

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

2/14: 329.4
2/21: 327.2
2/28: 323.4
3/6: 318.4

Now down 42 pounds!!

Wow good job!
Whats your daily meal/calories at?

I'm not counting calories.  I'm doing Nutrisystem, where they send you the majority of your food, and give you guidelines about what to add to it.  I estimate that I am averaging about 1300 calories a day, sometimes a little more when I go off plan slightly.

But, with my height, weight, gender, and age, I lose weight a lot faster than others (burning 3000-4000 calories a day without significant exercise).  It wouldn't surprise me if I averaged eating 4000+ calories a day before starting this.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

2/14: 329.4
2/21: 327.2
2/28: 323.4
3/6: 318.4

Now down 42 pounds!!

Wow good job!
Whats your daily meal/calories at?

I'm not counting calories.  I'm doing Nutrisystem, where they send you the majority of your food, and give you guidelines about what to add to it.  I estimate that I am averaging about 1300 calories a day, sometimes a little more when I go off plan slightly.

But, with my height, weight, gender, and age, I lose weight a lot faster than others (burning 3000-4000 calories a day without significant exercise).  It wouldn't surprise me if I averaged eating 4000+ calories a day before starting this.

How tall are you again?

Also exercise rarely burns calories at any significant level for 95% of the population, only athletes really burn it that much.  However still start exercise as I would try to avoid as you get skinnier is skinny fat as that happens with a sedentary lifestyle.

Weightloss is just CICO which it looks like you are doing.

6'5".  With my body type, I have no real desire to get below 250 or so, so I'm a significant chunk of the way there.

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I'm so desperate for live sports that I'm about to watch Australian Rules Football on FS1, which is pretty much the only sport that has chosen not to suspend play.  I watched a 5 minute primer video on the rules, so hopefully I can keep up.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

2/14: 329.4
2/21: 327.2
2/28: 323.4
3/6: 318.4

3/13: 315.2
3/20: 311.2
3/27: 311.4*
4/3: 308.8*
4/10: 304.8*
4/17: 302.0*

*I went to stay at my parents' house on 3/24 until things start to reopen so I'm not alone.  My scale is now on tile, instead of wood, which I suspect might have raised measurements by 1-2 pounds.  We'll see in May, when I go back home.

Anyway, I was really hoping to be in the 200s by my birthday (tomorrow), but it looks like I'll be just a tiny bit short.  I'll weigh in the morning just in case I had a large daily fluctuation, but it's quite unlikely.  It will come soon though!

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I feel like I have become much more right-wing in terms of rhetoric and attitudes (even if my actual issue positions have not changed) since the coronavirus started due to my anger at the idea of mass quarantines (which I opposed long before it was somewhat mainstream to do so).  It's as if my moderation in tone over the last few years has been completely undone by the two months of this.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I feel like I have become much more right-wing in terms of rhetoric and attitudes (even if my actual issue positions have not changed) since the coronavirus started due to my anger at the idea of mass quarantines (which I opposed long before it was somewhat mainstream to do so).  It's as if my moderation in tone over the last few years has been completely undone by the two months of this.

I understand. I feel like in 2 months I've reradicalized in certain areas after 10 years of moderation.

I just really want to go to the movies.

My guess is the movies will reopen next week (granted there's going to be nothing to show) given that Governor Lee seems to be using a Monday-Wednesday-Friday schedule for reopenings (such as close-contact businesses tomorrow and recreation like bowling and mini golf on Friday).

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i have been exceptionally ill the last couple days. i got so bad last night that i thought if things kept getting worse i was probably gonna die. my fever got over 103 and i can't even remember it being that high ever.

i kept just trying to sleep it off but every time i feel asleep i pretty much stopped breathing and i guess my body just forced me to wake up when that happened lol.

i'm feeling better today though, just keeping nyquil in my system constantly.

Hope you're feeling better!  Do you think it is the coronavirus or something else?

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i have been exceptionally ill the last couple days. i got so bad last night that i thought if things kept getting worse i was probably gonna die. my fever got over 103 and i can't even remember it being that high ever.

i kept just trying to sleep it off but every time i feel asleep i pretty much stopped breathing and i guess my body just forced me to wake up when that happened lol.

i'm feeling better today though, just keeping nyquil in my system constantly.

Hope you're feeling better!  Do you think it is the coronavirus or something else?

No clue. Right now I'm going on day 8 of whatever this is and around Wednesday my symptoms changed from fever and cough/chest tightness being the main issues to a pounding headache and stomach pain being my main issues. I'm hoping I'll be better by Monday, for sure.

Dude, I urge you to contact your healthcare provider to see what’s up. You may be infected, in which I urge you to get an answer and then possible treatment as soon as possible.

I did the online google test thing that u r supposed to do before going to get tested and it just told me to stay home but not go get tested so that's what i've been doing. idk though maybe i should anyway?

Tennessee has free testing in every county, so it couldn't hurt to get one.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

My weight loss has slowed since the first week, but it's still going down:

1/10: 360.4
1/17: 345.8
1/24: 342.0
1/31: 338.4

I'm planning to go to this adventure tower/ropes course in my hometown that has a 300-pound weight limit to celebrate when I'm under 300.  I'll probably wait until 290 or so, just to be sure that daily fluctuations, shoes, and a different scale won't accidentally put me over (if they actually weigh you, that is).

2/7: 332.6

2/14: 329.4
2/21: 327.2
2/28: 323.4
3/6: 318.4

3/13: 315.2
3/20: 311.2
3/27: 311.4
4/3: 308.8
4/10: 304.8
4/17: 302.0

4/24: 303.0
5/1: 299.6
5/8: 297.2
5/15: 294.8
5/22: 294.0
5/29: 291.6

The pace has definitely slowed (in part because I've been much less strict lately, as eating out is a key way for human contact in reopening until we're fully open), but I'm now at 69 pounds.  Probably another 40-60 left, depending on what it looks and feels like then.  The ropes course celebration is happening tomorrow!

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I went out to dinner with a bunch of friends tonight, and one of my friends said that he was going on a date with the girl I secretly have very strong feelings for.  I did my best to play it cool for the next hour, but I am shaken right now.  I know I should be happy for him and hope it goes well, but I am secretly hoping it doesn't go well for them, as terrible as that is.

I talked about it with one of my other friends who was there (and didn't know I had feelings for her) for about half an hour on the phone afterwards.  I prayed about it vigorously before I went to bed, that God would at least free me of my feelings for her if a relationship with her is not in His will.  But, I can't sleep or get my mind off of it.

[100% pro-life no matter what]

I've watched soccer and NASCAR in the last two days...I must be so seriously starved for entertainment that I found myself getting into both.  Going to try to watch some Aussie Rules Football this weekend (I remember enjoying it when it was the last sport still playing in March before it also stopped).


In fairness, I hadn't really given myself a chance to become a fan of either, and, since I like literally every sport I've ever watched, I guess it makes sense that I would enjoy them too.  It probably helped that I decided on rooting interests going in (even if I have no long-term emotional connection like I do with other sports).

But, give me football, basketball, baseball, hockey, and tennis (the sports I've watched for most of my life) any day of the week.  Six more weeks until team sports return!