Thanks for your thoughtful response JS. However, for what it is worth, I don't think my sojourn into porn has had the slightest impact on how I treat women. Maybe it is because my mind rules, no matter how much I try to make my region below the waist more competitive with the area above my neck. I don't know. The bottom line is that it is fun I guess for me - once in awhile.
I suspect a lot of guys are like me; we can enjoy porn without any desire to treat women like objects, ignoring their own needs or desires, which in any event tends to prove highly unproductive, aka it may well end up er, biting you in the ass, as it were.
Most of us can see pornography and recognize it as impossible fantasy. First, many of the images in print or on celluloid are unavailable. Much of the fantasy is of being in a different social situation in which one may be more available because one can throw money at willing gold-diggers.
Sexual images, real or contrived, should never be spurs to or excuses for sexual misconduct. A man who sees a bare vagina and thinks it an excuse for forcible sex is a rapist in his soul. It's up to parents and society as a whole to impress moral standards upon people about sex -- standards more permissive about sexuality as such but not for brutality.
Those who decry pornography (that that depicts abuse and humiliation or involves children has no defense) ignore that with enough of a moral compass one can see nudity without turning sex into an act of cruelty. Sex is rightly a loving act between equals -- never one of pure force. Sex without love is always wrong. Pornography might show a loving couple how to do certain things that they like without abuse (although I have nothing but contempt for "bondage and discipline", for which decent people have no use). If that loving couple has more satisfying sex, then what is wrong?
