Is this tacky?

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

An argument me and my roommate just got into:

A girl lives in your dorm.  The two of you talk whenever you see each other, which is maybe 2-3 times a week (one of those times is in a meeting that won't be held this week).  You want to ask her out, but it's about to be exam week and you're leaving Wedensday (she's staying until Friday).  Is it tacky to ask her outover Facebook since it's pretty unlikely that you're going to see her during the week due to wacky schedules due to exams?

[© tweed]

yes; text-based ask-out is the pinnacle of teenage romantic devolution

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

yes; text-based ask-out is the pinnacle of teenage romantic devolution

Thank you.  We agree there, but I am absolutely lost on how to argue this point when he argues what a good alternative to asking her out on Facebook would be.

[MasterJedi]

yes; text-based ask-out is the pinnacle of teenage romantic devolution

Thank you.  We agree there, but I am absolutely lost on how to argue this point when he argues what a good alternative to asking her out on Facebook would be.

Walk up to her room since you live in the same dorm and ask her out. Not that hard.

[© tweed]

although it could be argued that 'pinnacle of devolution' makes no sense, but making sense isn't my main objective.  beauty is

as for your friend, if he knows where her room is, it can't be too difficult.  personally I would rather get strung up than ask someone out via text-based communication, but this is only me.  the lone time I did that was on December 14, 2002.

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

yes; text-based ask-out is the pinnacle of teenage romantic devolution

Thank you.  We agree there, but I am absolutely lost on how to argue this point when he argues what a good alternative to asking her out on Facebook would be.

Walk up to her room since you live in the same dorm and ask her out. Not that hard.

I forgot to mention that she's hardly ever actually in her room, but she's always on Facebook.

[Boris]

the lone time I did that was on December 14, 2002.

were the ensuing results favorable?

[© tweed]

the lone time I did that was on December 14, 2002.

were the ensuing results favorable?

no, although that was an interesting night, as it was my first real experience with any volume of alcohol.  my friend's cousin was actually the one who did the typing, as she claimed that she was "good at" such activities, but she was unsuccessful.  I tried again six days later in an embarrassing downward spiral that got me nowhere, and the chase was called off at that point.  I was completely over the whole ordeal by the morning of 12/21/2002.

[Smid]

Write a note before you wander up and stick it in your pocket - something along the lines of "I was hoping to catch up with you before I leave on Wednesday, is there a time we can talk?" or something like that - you're good with words, you can probably come up with something better than that. If she's there when you knock, you don't need the note. If she's not there when you knock, you can stick the note under her door without spending five minutes outside jotting it down on a piece of scrap paper, using your knee as a table, only to find it turns out as illegible scrawl. If you don't hear from her, you can then send her one of those private messages on Facebook, asking if she got the note you left her.

This way, you can ask her out face-to-face, but if she's not around when you first try, you can still arrange an alternate time.

[Lunar]

NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT THROUGH FACEBOOK

NEVER

NEVER

NEVER


NEVER



You don't want to give her a couple days to mull it over, talk to her friends, and think about it!  You want her to feel "on the spot" and be unable to have a reason to say "no" when asked in a face-to-face situation.  It completely removes the pressure from the request and lets her insert her hidden doubts over 24-48 hours before responding.  Dumb dumb.

It ranks like this:

In person
Phone
IM
Facebook


DON'T DO IT!

It's so dumb.

dumb dumb dumb

PLEASE DON'T DO IT FOR THE SAKE OF GUYS EVERYWHERE

[Fmr. Pres. Duke]

NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT THROUGH FACEBOOK

NEVER

NEVER

NEVER


NEVER



You don't want to give her a couple days to mull it over, talk to her friends, and think about it!  You want her to feel "on the spot" and be unable to have a reason to say "no" when asked in a face-to-face situation.  It completely removes the pressure from the request and lets her insert her hidden doubts over 24-48 hours before responding.  Dumb dumb.

It ranks like this:

In person
Phone
IM
Facebook


DON'T DO IT!

It's so dumb.

dumb dumb dumb

PLEASE DON'T DO IT FOR THE SAKE OF GUYS EVERYWHERE

This.

[Queen Mum Inks.LWC]

For the record, this is NOT about me.  lol

[Mint]

NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT THROUGH FACEBOOK

NEVER

NEVER

NEVER


NEVER



You don't want to give her a couple days to mull it over, talk to her friends, and think about it!  You want her to feel "on the spot" and be unable to have a reason to say "no" when asked in a face-to-face situation.  It completely removes the pressure from the request and lets her insert her hidden doubts over 24-48 hours before responding.  Dumb dumb.

It ranks like this:

In person
Phone
IM
Facebook


DON'T DO IT!

It's so dumb.

dumb dumb dumb

PLEASE DON'T DO IT FOR THE SAKE OF GUYS EVERYWHERE

This.

[Lunar]

For the record, this is NOT about me.  lol

I DON'T CARE

TELL HIM THAT LUNAR (YOUR INTERNET BUDDY) WILL KICK HIS ASS IF HE TRIES

I mean, it reduces your success rate by like 90% or more I'd assume.  I've talked to people who have tried this and it's a universal failure, but it might simply be correlated with people who are going to fail anyway.  You have to remember that girls are inherently skeptical creatures and you have to have them get to know you before they will agree to do anything with you pressure-free.

[Aizen]

isn't there an option where you can poke people or something on facebook that has sexual connotation? you could try that. see how that pans out for you.

[MasterJedi]

Then have your friend find out when she will be in her room through facebook and then he can actually go talk to her.

[Rin-chan]

Asking someone out through Facebook, text messages, instant messenger, phone, or anything that isn't in person is tacky.  Breaking up with people that way is tacky, too

If this girl kinda likes this guy but isn't really sure, asking her out through any of the above means would totally be a turn off.  Even if she really liked him, it'd probably be a total turn off. 

Listen to Lunar.  Asking her out over Facebook would be a disgrace to guys everywhere.  And she WILL laugh about it for a looooooonnnnggg time with her friends. 

Rin-chan