What was/is your parents' parenting style?

[GregTheGreat657]

My family is quite unique about this. I'm not usually allowed to leave our house on my own, go to friends' houses, or have friends over (even pre-COVID). They don't know I have Atlas, and they generally don't care what I see on the internet. I'm not really allowed to have social media either. I've tried convincing them to let me get a Snapchat though, because that's wicked popular with kids at my school, to the point where I'd say over 90% of kids in my grade have it (just a guess)

[beesley]

My parents were fairly strict (not so much as yours, but along similar lines), but you couldn't fault them for being two incredibly caring individuals who have always gone the extra mile for me. I owe my success in my life and field to them as much as or more than myself in some respects . In terms of actual style they were fairly down to earth and involved (and still are by the standards of the life of someone in their early twenties) but not so far as to get in the way of anything too much for my liking. But I doubt they would want me to post here or do some of the things I have done as an adult even if they are typical 21 year old things to do.

[HillGoose]

they just never really liked me i dont think

[John Dule]

Why has this site been overrun by Republican 12-year-olds in the past few months?

[Schiff for Senate]

Why has this site been overrun by Republican 12-year-olds in the past few months?

The OP's 14.

[Mr. Smith]

Why has this site been overrun by Republican 12-year-olds in the past few months?

The OP's 14.

I wonder what the other teacher folk on Atlas think when they realize come across could-be students.

For me it's quite surreal....maybe when I get a bit older it won't be so weird....

[Dr. MB]

Very lax. Partly cause I was a pretty well behaved (and naturally independent) kid but I was allowed to use the internet unsupervised since probably 7 or 8, friends with who I wanted and could always hangout, never was hit or grounded or otherwise punished past minor things. Mom was way more involved than my dad in day to day stuff like school/sports/activities which I can't really fault him for because of his work. And I turned out more well-adjusted than a lot of people I know with much stricter parents. I've got a great relationship with them.

[Big Abraham]

Why has this site been overrun by Republican 12-year-olds in the past few months?

The OP's 14.

Lmao.

[Okay, maybe Mike Johnson is a competent parliamentarian.]

My mother wielded a very light disciplinary hand, so the few times she actually brought the hammer down (a passing interest in internet porn when I was thirteen; some gratuitously nasty remarks to an older relative a few years after that) left lasting memories and really impressed that the behavior was unacceptable. Other than those few cases I was basically a free-range latchkey kid who was better behaved than most other such kids mostly because I'm risk-averse by nature. On some common disciplinary issues such as swearing and mouthing off to cops she actually parented in an actively antiauthoritarian way.

When it came to imparting moral or political views she mostly just led by example. I never really rebelled against her basic left-edge-of-NPR-liberalism political outlook, and indeed I still see it as the base or core or foundation of my own beliefs. (I often joke that the single most conservative thing about my politics is that I would never dream of defecting from the political left because my mother would never dream of doing so.) To the extent that my views as an adult are different from hers it's because I've had different experiences and extrafamilial influences in my life than she has.

[junior chįmp]

Strict disciplinarians

[Southern Senator North Carolina Yankee]

Very lax, but destructive of personal initiative and out of touch with the reality of "the sheltered situation" this caused and the social consequences it created.

[Crumpets]

Probably pretty typical for a big city family in the 90s-00s. "Begrudgingly helicoptery" might be my best description. My parents both clearly love me and always have and tried to keep me safe. I wasn't sheltered from the realities of the world or kept off the internet or anything like that, but I also didn't have many friends my age who lived nearby and so I wasn't ever really able to hang out with friends and explore until I was probably in high school and I rarely went farther than the end of my block alone until I was a teenager. This definitely explains why the first chance I got to travel without them I went to India for a month.

The biggest differences I notice between me and my friend group is that my parents were laxer in terms of things like chores and discipline in general, but also much less likely to do things like play explicit music or watch R rated movies with me. I didn't learn the F word until I was like 10 or 11 and I was always brought up to believe that rap and hip hop were inherently less-classy music that perverts, drug addicts, and criminals listen to, (although this changed a bit when Macklemore got popular )ditto things like tattoos and smoking, but of course not drinking.

My parents have also always been super weird when it comes to relationships and sex in a way that I definitely don't think is normal or healthy. Like, I have never in my life felt comfortable talking to them about anything personal relationship-y, and if anything like that comes up, it's immediately a source of huge tension. And combine this with the last point, it'll be a really interesting day if I ever bring home a girl who *gasp* listens to rap or *double gasp* has a tattoo or smokes pot.

[parochial boy]

"oh, that hurt did it? Well now you know"

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

Abusive

[Sprouts Farmers Market ✘]

Eerily like Crumpets' experience, probably with less care about rap music because that was never a topic that came up ever. And fortunately, a dozen or so people on my little block of civilization were the same age.

The only addendum that I must add is that despite being 27, they seem to believe that I am perpetually 12 years old and can micro-manage me whenever we are together. Their mindset clearly leaves no bandwidth for their children to disrupt the nuclear family of all those years by adding our own relationships to the mix.

[Sir Mohamed]

Along with my brother and sister, we always had, and still have, a very close and trustful relationship to our parents. They always cared and still do. As my parents and siblings still reside in the UAE, we don't see each other more than once or twice a year, even before the pandemic. Sure, my father was always the one making the rules, but he always tried to teach us for life beyond traditional values. Due to his professional career in various positions, he was always influenced by Western culture, as is my mother through him. They're not exactly as liberal as me today, but completely approve my lifestyle.

[Torie]

Laissez faire. They let me run wild.

[Mad Deadly Worldwide Communist Gangster Computer God]

I was only a behavioral issue at like, kindergarten age. Then I grew out of it and afterwards my parents were pretty light-handed and sometimes more rebellious than I was (they would both run to the upstairs bathroom and smoke pot with the window open while I was in middle school. I never suspected a thing and my mom only admitted it to me years afterward. pretty hilarious, especially since it was the mailman supplying the goods).

There was a little bit of a helicoptering aspect to it as well, but a lot of that came from me having special needs. I was still always more risk-averse than they were.

[jamestroll]

Very unusual. But I grew up in a community that had very unusually bizarre conditions.

When my mother passed in 2019 and many people in community said "Ding Dong the witch gone" and a few months later when my father passed and the funeral service ended up everyone just bashing and making fun of my mother should tell anyone everything they need to know.

At least neither one of them had to deal with Covid-19.

[MR DARK BRANDON]

“Don’t care what you do, just as long as you are able to get up to go to school”

[Boobs]

My mother, Mary Hussein, saw motherhood as a divine calling. Her primary aim was to raise her children to be kind and good people, and to instill in them strong moral values. She raised seven children—four girls and three boys—to a very high moral standard. As a result, we were well behaved, obedient, and compassionate. She was a highly educated woman with a doctorate in French literature. She used her intellect and passion to inculcate strong character in her children. We were taught to read, write, and play instruments, to take good care of our bodies, to be respectful of others, and to respect ourselves.

My father was another one of those extraordinary characters. He never showed his emotions, whether happy or sad. He was quiet, yet extremely affectionate. My siblings and I found him mysterious and alluring. It wasn’t until years later that we found out that he had been very much in love with my mother.

[YE]

Very strict when it came to grades/effort towards school but lax about everything else.

[Mr. Smith]

Mom = Good cop

Dad = Bad cop

The course only reversed itself if church attendance was involved.

[Meclazine for Israel]

1975 in country Queensland was amazing.

Compared to modern parents, mine were borderline non-existent.

It was like Mad Max 2 and my parents never reached me.