2nd dating advice question

[dudeabides]

So I am a political junkie. At my age, most of the women I come across are not. Until I met this one girl two months ago, she is also a political junkie as much, if not more so, than me. I asked her out to lunch, we went out, and I am going out with her again. I'm not sure if she views me as a friend or potential date, I certainly view her as a potential date. Here comes the problem. I don't know how to take that next step - how do I go from having lunch with this woman to going on a date with her? I am nervous. Help is welcomed

[dead0man]

how do I go from having lunch with this woman to going on a date with her?

Ask her on a date.


Seriously.


Just do it.


In my experience (and I'm an old) you never regret asking and getting turned down, you'll always regret not asking.

[dudeabides]

how do I go from having lunch with this woman to going on a date with her?

Ask her on a date.


Seriously.


Just do it.


In my experience (and I'm an old) you never regret asking and getting turned down, you'll always regret not asking.

Very true.

Here is my next question: do I ask at the end of our lunch or call in a few days?

[DavidB.]

I don't know how to take that next step - how do I go from having lunch with this woman to going on a date with her?

The lunch is the date, that doesn't necessarily have to be explicit.

Here's the thing: if you're both having fun, you'll see each other again. Of course it's always a good thing to cautiously check if she has the same intentions so you know you're both on the same page. If there's friends you have in common that are close to her while you trust them as well, you could maybe ask one of them if they can drop a hint/go "fishing" for information a little.

Ask her on a date.


Seriously.


Just do it.

And this. Be assertive. Dates don't plan themselves. However, it's generally wise to avoid the word "date" because it carries a lot of baggage. Just ask her out for something to eat, or something to drink, or whatever you want to do. If she isn't interested, she'll let you know and you can both move on.

[dead0man]

how do I go from having lunch with this woman to going on a date with her?

Ask her on a date.


Seriously.


Just do it.


In my experience (and I'm an old) you never regret asking and getting turned down, you'll always regret not asking.

Very true.

Here is my next question: do I ask at the end of our lunch or call in a few days?

Perhaps call her about something else and near the end of the conversation ask her if she wants to go do some activity you would both enjoy....NOT A MOVIE!

[Crumpets]

In my experience (and I'm an old) you never regret asking and getting turned down, you'll always regret not asking.

This has not been my experience, but I understand the sentiment.

[dudeabides]

Thank you all for your help, it is much appreciated.