Update for Everyone III - The Whinge Binge

[Virginiá]

I don't how to handle this--I'm really her only support in college at the moment, but I also don't know the first thing about how to support her, and I have a hard time spending time with my other friends since she sort expects to eat every meal with her, spend lots of free time with her, etc. I don't know what to do

Have you considered trying to help her meet some new people? If you're looking to help her, that would be the best thing to do. You seem like a good friend, but at the same time, you can't always be a crutch for her at the expense of all other things important to you. You do have to look out for your own well-being, too. On the other hand, maybe she likes you instead of just being lonely?

[Torie]

Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

[Virginiá]

Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

Congratulations Torie! Do you have future plans for higher offices? Also, how much are your rates for political favors?

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Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

Yay Torie!

[Torie]

Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

Congratulations Torie! Do you have future plans for higher offices? Also, how much are your rates for political favors?

Thank you Virginia. The answer to your first question is yes, and the answer to your second question, is that I am not yet sufficiently acclimated to NY politics to have prepared a price list yet.

PS: Thanks too to darthebearnc, who so often takes it on the chin for me, misguided masochist that he is.

[DavidB.]

Congratulations, Torie!

[SATW]

Mazel Tov, Torie!

[CountyTy90]

My fiancee and I have set our wedding date for May 16th of this year. We're going to have a wedding done traditionally in my culture, but we're going to mix it up for her and her family as well.

Also today I learned if I don't vote for Bernie, I'm going to be rounded up by Trump and be thrown into the ovens....yes some hardcore Sandernistas are saying this...

Congrats!

I skipped going to the gym today, so I decided to go for a run around town to get at least some physical activity in for the day. Well it being January in Illinois there's a thing called ice which I totally let slip in my mind. So as I'm rounding the second to last corner, just houses away from my home, my feet slip out from underneath me and next thing I know I'm on the asphalt. I could immediately feel stinging in my hand and elbow, but I got up and jogged back home.

In the light and warmth of home, I see that I took a huge chunk of skin out of my finger, scraped up my elbow, scraped up my knee pretty bad, and to top it off, I ripped the most comfortable pair of sweatpants I've ever known.

...I'm sure if anyone saw it was probably the highlight of their day, however.

Today's lesson kids: don't run in January... especially in the dark.

Ouch! Hope it all heals up soon!

Thanks!

[True Federalist (진정한 연방 주의자)]

Local jewelry store was going to have someone in tomorrow with a bunch of extra stones for making special rings, but the weather put the kibosh on that, and it won't be rescheduled until April, well after Valentine's Day, so they may well have lost a sale as I'm not waiting that long.

[Simfan34]

Next stop: Mayor Torie!

But seriously though, Mayor Torie. Even your critics should support this.

[muon2]

Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

My appointment to the plan commission in 1991 was about that quick. Look what happened to me. Congrats.

[afleitch]

In New York...during a winter storm.

[Mike Thick]

Went to an L.A. Phil concert last night. They played a piece by this guy Halffter that kind of reminded me of Vangelis' score of Blade Runner for some reason, which was cool. There was a Brahms piano concerto, which was 48 minutes of Brahms (need I say more?). It finished up nicely, though, with Dvorak's Eighth Symphony. Probably my fave romantic composer, esp. the New World Symphony.

Well, my political career in Hudson (have you all heard of Hudson?) has formally commenced. I have been appointed to the Zoning Board of Appeals. I emailed the new Mayor's aide expressing my interest, and 30 minutes later got a call from the Mayor appointing me. That was quick!

Congrats, Torie! Best of luck!

[TDAS04]

Congratulations Torie!

[Sol]

I don't how to handle this--I'm really her only support in college at the moment, but I also don't know the first thing about how to support her, and I have a hard time spending time with my other friends since she sort expects to eat every meal with her, spend lots of free time with her, etc. I don't know what to do

Have you considered trying to help her meet some new people? If you're looking to help her, that would be the best thing to do. You seem like a good friend, but at the same time, you can't always be a crutch for her at the expense of all other things important to you. You do have to look out for your own well-being, too. On the other hand, maybe she likes you instead of just being lonely?

I don't think she likes me; I'm gay and she knows that.

Which sort of leads to the other concern I have; she's very different than my main group of friends but since they all live in the same dorm she's started inviting herself along to our get-togethers...but she doesn't ever say anything in the conversations and I sort of get stressed out about her because it seems like she's not having fun. Last night, for instance, she tagged along to some cooking that my friends were doing, and just sat at the table without talking. It makes me feel like I'm responsible for her. After a while in their, some of my other friends decided to go watch this tv show we've been binging and I went with, but I was anxious the whole time because she had stayed back.

I just don't really think that she'd really be comfortable around that friend group; I'm sure the only reason she was there was because I was. It's just stressful to have her constantly wanting to spend time with me; she's texted me twice today wanting to hang out, and texted me 4 times yesterday--the only reason there weren't more was because she came to cooking.

[Virginiá]

I don't think she likes me; I'm gay and she knows that.

Which sort of leads to the other concern I have; she's very different than my main group of friends but since they all live in the same dorm she's started inviting herself along to our get-togethers...but she doesn't ever say anything in the conversations and I sort of get stressed out about her because it seems like she's not having fun. Last night, for instance, she tagged along to some cooking that my friends were doing, and just sat at the table without talking. It makes me feel like I'm responsible for her. After a while in their, some of my other friends decided to go watch this tv show we've been binging and I went with, but I was anxious the whole time because she had stayed back.

I just don't really think that she'd really be comfortable around that friend group; I'm sure the only reason she was there was because I was. It's just stressful to have her constantly wanting to spend time with me; she's texted me twice today wanting to hang out, and texted me 4 times yesterday--the only reason there weren't more was because she came to cooking.

Oh I didn't know that. Honestly, she sounds really shy at the very least. You could try and set her up with someone for a date as well.  However, I must say, sometimes there is not a solution that you can bring about. Ultimately, she has to figure out what she wants and make the effort herself. I'd say that as a friend, you should be there for her, and try to help when you can, but to not put the full weight of her issue on your back. There is only so much you can do, and it seems like you really care and have been trying, so that does count.

I can sympathize with being shy like that. I remember being in very similar situations in HS like you said with her at the table just kind of not talking. Though I was just anxious and insecure, she could be the same or simply not find anything interesting about them. But I knew my problem (I was pretty chubby and had very little confidence), so that had a relatively straightforward fix. I'm not sure what her issue is. She really should try and find out exactly what it is and how to work through it. Seeing a therapist or such may help with that.

But, like I said, she has to be making real efforts or else nothing will change. You can't help her with this kind of issue all on your own.

[#TheShadowyAbyss]

Today Rubio's campaign emailed me about how he met an atheist

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Today Rubio's campaign emailed me about how he met an atheist

I was once asked if I support same-sex marriage on ISideWith. The Hillary Clinton campaign felt like I would enjoy getting emails from them because I pressed "Yes".

[Mike Thick]

You might be a band nerd if you find yourself casually pointing out the difference between the Jaws theme and the Dvorak symphony John Williams ripped it from while watching Glee

[Okay, maybe Mike Johnson is a competent parliamentarian.]

I'm beginning to reconsider presenting myself as transgender/a woman, primarily for religious reasons.

[RFayette]

I'm beginning to reconsider presenting myself as transgender/a woman, primarily for religious reasons.

Interesting....do you mind elucidating on that? 

[Classic Conservative]

I'm beginning to reconsider presenting myself as transgender/a woman, primarily for religious reasons.

Interesting....do you mind elucidating on that? 

[#TheShadowyAbyss]

I'm beginning to reconsider presenting myself as transgender/a woman, primarily for religious reasons.

Interesting....do you mind elucidating on that? 

[#TheShadowyAbyss]

There was a major fire at where our future mosque will be in town, police are investigating it as a possible hate crime.

[Mike Thick]

There was a major fire at where our future mosque will be in town, police are investigating it as a possible hate crime.

Yikes! Hopefully no one was hurt, and everything gets fixed up quickly. Stay safe.