Would you let your kid be gay?

[Marokai Backbeat]

I'm not in the mood for "how dare you"-esque statements. I simply told you of my experiences so if you ever encounter a similar situation you don't make the same mistakes my grandparents and other's parents have made. I don't see how love includes what can only be hatred and outright exclusion of your child's very identity. Homosexuality is not a hobby, it is not an occupation, it's not for fun.

If you chosse to play this sort of uppity offended fellow just struck with how someone can't tell you how to think about your kids, that is your prerogative. I just feel sorry for your kid(s).

[Swedish Rainbow Capitalist Cheese]

I can't make those kinds of decisions for her(present) or them(future). I'd be severely disappointed, and I wouldn't take part in that side of their life(I wouldn't have them bring their partner to my home, wouldn't attend any "wedding" they might have, and wouldn't advertise their orientation to anyone)*, but that's their choice, and I'd still love them and help them in whatever way they need.

Yeah you're right, it's a choice you have to leave to the kid. Back when I filled out the Sexuality Choice form I was very undecided as to what I'd choose, but my parents were really pushing for the gay option. Today I kind of regret it and wish I at least had choosen bisexual, as that way I would have had a greater chance to have kids.

By saying I can't make those decisions, I was trying to say that it wasn't a choice made by either myself or my child.

Ok then I understand and accept your position better.

And I'm confident that whatever you feel now, if you ever actually end up in that situation, you'll want to have your daughter (or son) over for thanksgiving, Christmas, and family dinners, and if that mean you'll have to accept their partners as well, you'll probably do it.     

[Marokai Backbeat]

One would hope so, Swedish.

[useful idiot]

I'm not in the mood for "how dare you"-esque statements. I simply told you of my experiences so if you ever encounter a similar situation you don't make the same mistakes my grandparents and other's parents have made. I don't see how love includes what can only be hatred and outright exclusion of your child's very identity. Homosexuality is not a hobby, it is not an occupation, it's not for fun.

If you chosse to play this sort of uppity offended fellow just struck with how someone can't tell you how to think about your kids, that is your prerogative. I just feel sorry for your kid(s).

You can feel sorry for her if you want, that's your right. I didn't choose not to respond with a long post because you offended me, but because you were trying to. I certainly wasn't offended by what you had to say, it takes a lot more than that to get to me. I don't know you so what you say doesn't really carry any weight or affect me(nothing personal, I just don't get emotionally involved here). There was just no way I could respond to what you had to say because I don't feel like getting into a pissing match or arguing over something that isn't particularly arguable. I wouldn't get anything out of it.

Like I said before, we have different views. I would find it extremely difficult to accept parts of my child's life if they chose to pursue their desires for people of their own gender. If she's gay, my opinions on whether or not to engage in those parts of her life might change. But as of right now I don't think I could see myself doing it, and getting into it on an internet forum at 5am isn't going to change that.

[useful idiot]

I will say this though, if she gave me an ultimatum and said that it was either engage in the homosexual aspects of her life or she'll choose not to be a part of my life, that's no choice at all.

[k-onmmunist]

I'm not having kids, ever, but if I did, I wouldn't care if they were gay.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

I'm not having kids, ever, but if I did, I wouldn't care if they were gay.

Why not?

Why I'm not having kids or why I wouldn't care if they were gay?

Just curious why you're so sure that you are never having kids, ever...

[Gustaf]

Not in my house, I wouldn't.

[Middle-aged Europe]

The more pressing question is: Would your gay children let YOU be straight any longer?

[CubOB]

I feel so, so sorry for useful idiot's daughter - the idea of a parent's love ever being conditional is a horrible thought.

[Countess Anya of the North Parish]

sure. It is non of business anyways.

[MASHED POTATOES. VOTE!]

Um, how could I "let" or "not let" my potential kid be gay? Being gay it's something I would have no authority over

And yes, I would have to accept that.

[Mechaman]

I think as long as he accepted God then it doesn't matter if he is gay or not.

Would you let your kid be home alone with jmfcst? That is a more interesting question perhaps.

Would you let your kid be an atheist?

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

Uh, it's not exactly a matter of 'letting' your kid be gay.

[Small Business Owner of Any Repute]

NO KID OF MINE IS GONNA BE A DAMN QUEER

Thankfully, they make camps for this kind of situation. That'll fix it. Nothing gay ever happens at camp.

[fezzyfestoon]

What am I gonna do to stop it?

[Holmes]

itt a controlling father who would shame his child if things don't go his way and call it love.


Anyway, my mom knows and we have a good relationship, and I'm sure she was more conservative on the issue than some people are in this thread right now considering she's a slightly religious middle aged Franco/German from a pretty rural place. And my boyfriend's dad for example is from Peru and is from a really catholic family and is now totally accepting, so people say things when their kids are really young that won't be true when time passes.

[Filuwaúrdjan]

Mission accomplished Hamilton!

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

Mission accomplished Hamilton!

Al, in all honesty this is probably Hammy's best sock account, since he's not being the nasty asshole he's been with his other socks.  In the NE Assembly he's actually been quite genial.

[memphis]

What's the other option, shoot him?

[Grumpier Than Uncle Joe]

sure. It is non of business anyways.

Have you told your mother that your personal matters are non of business?

[opebo]

Just an FYI but I am not a homophobe as I said I wouldn't disown my kid but I would not let gay anal sex take place under my roof.

What about straight anal sex?  What about gay oral sex?  What about some form of teabagging? 

[Uncle Albert/Admiral Halsey]

Uh, it's not exactly a matter of 'letting' your kid be gay.

[The Mikado]

What about some form of teabagging? 

There wouldn't be any teabagging under my roof!  At least, not the political kind.

[opebo]

What about some form of teabagging? 

There wouldn't be any teabagging under my roof!  At least, not the political kind.

Is it always a form of oral sex or is the 'tea-bag' sometimes applied to the forehead?  Either gently or in a 'mashing' motion?  Or perhaps even the top of the head!