Would you kiss a man if your girlfriend wanted wanted you to?

[Kitteh]

Monosexuality is so weird.

But seriously, I just can't understand the mindset of someone who wouldn't even kiss someone of a gender they aren't attracted to if a person they really liked wanted them to. Seriously-we're not talking about having sex here, just kissing. Why is that even an issue? I guess because of homophobic masculinity complexes, which are all too common even among men who fully support political equality for gay people.

[DC Al Fine]

No

[Goldwater]

That depends. What will my girlfriend do for me in return?

[Leftbehind]

Monosexuality is so weird.

But seriously, I just can't understand the mindset of someone who wouldn't even kiss someone of a gender they aren't attracted to if a person they really liked wanted them to. Seriously-we're not talking about having sex here, just kissing. Why is that even an issue? I guess because of homophobic masculinity complexes, which are all too common even among men who fully support political equality for gay people.

I disagree, I think it ultimately comes down to how much significance you put in swapping saliva - you evidently put a significant difference between that and sex, and yet I can't forsee a scenario where I'd willingly doing the former and yet being unwilling to do the latter. It fundamentally comes down to attraction for both. I don't think it's through masculine-driven homophobia either, because I'd be willing to bet many females would be similarly uncomfortable with (despite same patriarchal messages often encouraging it).

[dead0man]

I answered "no", but really I suppose it's "maybe".  There had better be a good reason for the request.  "the yuk yuks" may be a good enough answer.  "because I want you to" is not.  "if you loved me you'd do it" is right out.  "I'll do that thing you like later if you do it now" is probably the worst thing you can hear from your SO.

[Gustaf]

Sure! I've probably made out with more girls than half the straights on this forum, so I don't see why not. Though I think it would be a strange request. 

I think having made out with one girl would put you ahead of more than half the straights of the forum.

[opebo]

Monosexuality is so weird.

But seriously, I just can't understand the mindset of someone who wouldn't even kiss someone of a gender they aren't attracted to if a person they really liked wanted them to. Seriously-we're not talking about having sex here, just kissing. Why is that even an issue? I guess because of homophobic masculinity complexes, which are all too common even among men who fully support political equality for gay people.

Are you serious?  I have no problem with kissing a 'male' (that is a ladyboy) privately and purely of my own volition, but I would have a problem with doing it because someone asked me too for some kind of weird or controlling thrill.  My objection has nothing to do with homophobia and everything to do with a desire to be in relationships where mutual respect is observed and one isn't treated as a plaything.

[Associate Justice PiT]

     Barring extreme circumstances, no.

[Oakvale]

Um... I don't think so? This situation has never happened to me and I can't imagine why it would.

[Swedish Rainbow Capitalist Cheese]

Sure! I've probably made out with more girls than half the straights on this forum, so I don't see why not. Though I think it would be a strange request. 

I think having made out with one girl would put you ahead of more than half the straights of the forum.

I've made out with three girls, so I'm probably in the top ten.
Actually the latest time I made out with a girl it actually ended up with me getting laid. (With a guy that is)

[opebo]

Are you serious?  I have no problem with kissing a 'male' (that is a ladyboy) privately and purely of my own volition, but I would have a problem with doing it because someone asked me too for some kind of weird or controlling thrill.  My objection has nothing to do with homophobia and everything to do with a desire to be in relationships where mutual respect is observed and one isn't treated as a plaything.

I don't get all the hate for questions.  Relationships are supposed to be about communication.  Sure you have the right to say no, and she should respect that, but if you're criticizing her for asking you a question, you're the one with controlling thrills and mutual respect issues.

But as for me, sure why not?  As long as I thought the guy or girl I had to kiss was attractive.  I like to see my S.O. happy.

Come on, its not a normal request or question - like 'lets try this position' or 'could you buy some lube?' or 'what about going in this way for a change'.  Its more like a desire to put some kind of heavy twist on your partner's sexuality - which is not likely to be 'easy' or natural to him.  I would also never push a girl to fool around with another girl.  If she likes that she can propose it.  I'm no believer in monogamy, but for me group sex is fraught with opportunities to offend and hurt someone.  There's just no need, and for someone to request it I find a sign that they haven't a great deal of consideration or regard.

[Fmr President & Senator Polnut]

It's odd... I don't think I'd like it, only because it suggests that someone would be forcing me to do something for their own pleasure without really considering my own... I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone like that.

As for kissing... it's just a kiss - who gives a toss?

[Bacon King]

I have done this before, had no problem with it, and would do it again.

[Peter the Lefty]

I'd kiss a girl if I had a bf who told me to.  Easily.

[AkSaber]

I don't know if I would cause I'd feel like I was being unfaithful.