Also he's 19 now, and most of this apparently happened when he was 14?
I don't think anyone is (or should be) saying this has to be define the rest of the his natural life, but it was literally just 5 years ago. It didn't just become nothing the moment he turned 18.
5 years makes a huge difference between 14 and 19. People can change dramatically over this period of time. It's very reasonable to want to see evidence that someone has changed their ways and that they want to make amends for harm caused when they were younger, but you have to allow people to grow.
