Atlas Sexual Morality Poll

[Virginiá]

1) Viewing pornographic material is ok.

2) It is a good idea for couples considering marriage to live together in order to decide whether or not they get along well enough to be married to one another.

3) It is ok for two people to get together for sex and not necessarily expect anything further.

4) If a couple has children, they should stay married unless there is physical or emotional abuse.*
* Obviously it is most optimal for a happy married couple (the mother and father) to raise the children together, but sometimes that just does not work out. Staying together even while unhappy and not desiring to stay married is not necessarily beneficial to the children. Relationships are not like that. Consistently volatile behavior between the husband and wife could just as easily end up hurting the children more than if they got divorced. I'm not sure if such a relationship would be classified as emotional abuse, but all of it has an impact on children's development. Also as Tender stated, some children may be born out of wedlock.

5) It is sometimes permissible for a married person to have sex with someone other than his/her spouse.*
* It's not something I myself could possibly agree to, but there are people out there with open marriages/relationships that can make it work.

6) It is ok for three or more consenting adults to live together in a sexual/romantic relationship.*
* Also not something I think I could do myself, but I don't think we should dictate to others how their relationships should be. There are certainly people out there who could handle, and may even thrive, in such a relationship.

7) I support abortion rights.*
* Generally I am fully supportive of abortion rights, but I get very iffy and judgey when it comes to late-term (>= 20wk) abortions. I suppose there are all sorts of reasons why that might end up being necessary, but if it's simply "I don't want it anymore," then I'd probably strongly dislike that person's decision. I don't really view abortions that way. It should be a major choice. If there are no medical issues and it's just a case of wanting/not wanting it, they need to make up their mind A.S.A.P and not just change it at the last second.

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I most agree with all of them, but I have significant reservations with some.

[Virginiá]

Actually, I believe it is immoral to keep extra-marital affairs secret from ones spouse, but not immoral to have an extra-marital affair. If this offends someone, then it says more about the person who was offended by it, than it does about the people who participated in the affair.

What does it say about them?

[Virginiá]

Actually, I believe it is immoral to keep extra-marital affairs secret from ones spouse, but not immoral to have an extra-marital affair. If this offends someone, then it says more about the person who was offended by it, than it does about the people who participated in the affair.

What does it say about them?

That they think about sex and marriage in a very regressive and traditionalist manner, and they believe that they have a right to control their spouse as if their spouse was property and not another person.

I mean, I'm just a little bit confused with this view. So let's take a hypothetical marriage between a man and a woman. The guy goes out, sleeps with a co-worker, goes home, tells the wife, the wife gets very upset. Is the wife being unreasonable here? From what you've said, you don't think what the man did was immoral, since he told her.

Or are you talking about a situation where both people agree that they can sleep with other people, so long as they are told about it (and presumably asked beforehand, which I think is common in open relationships). If this is what you mean, then I agree with you. I would never agree to an open relationship myself, but I have no issue with other people doing it so long as it works for them.

But if you're saying that in a regular marriage, if someone has an affair and tells the other about it, that it's unreasonable to get upset with that person because traditionalist / etc, then that is patently absurd.