It's certainly true that Democrats come across as condescending and holier-than-thou to a lot of people, and should find a way to push back against this perception. That's not to say that Republicans don't have contempt for Democratic voters, though.
This.
The urban voters are condescending towards rural voters AND the rural voters are condescending towards urban voters.
The urban-rural divide is a two edged sword.
You can accept that the Democrats are not the most sympathetic towards rural WWC voters while also realizing that the rural WWC voters have not been the shining beacon of tolerance towards urban voters who are just trying to make a living.