What's your excuse for not being in a relationship?

[Deus Naturae]

If you want to overcome social awkwardness all you need to do is start conversations with random people. I used to be pretty introverted (and still am at heart) but your social confidence will increase over time if you simply initiate interactions (no matter how small) with random people.

If there is honestly nothing interesting you can talk about that is a problem in itself. You seem to be well traveled...surely you have some exciting stories? I bet you've had some experiences in Ethiopia that people would find interesting. Or just join a club of some sort. That should give you something to talk about (plus meeting new people through the club will improve social confidence).

As far as appearance, females are far less selective in that regard than us men. Even if you aren't great looking there are girls who don't care that much and some may be intrigued by your "exoticness" (assuming you're clearly African rather than a native black...even better if you have an accent). If you're indistinguishable from a homegrown brotha....let's just say there are plenty of girls who are into that too. As for your physique you're the only one stopping you on that front. Just hit the gym and eat right (ideally fresh fruits and vegetables, plenty of meat, and eggs...no junk or grains).

Since you say you're a bad conversationalist, I highly recommend this book. You may feel silly reading a book about how to talk to girls if you put in the effort I guarantee you this guys advice will help.

Finally, you should be irrationally self-confident. Don't try to delude yourself about your faults (though that certainly isn't your problem), and don't necessarily be a douchebag, just don't apologize or feel the need to make excuses. Act like the African pride male you are. Better to be too confident than too timid. Being confident in yourself will make you much more attractive to women, which is a positive feedback loop since their positive reactions to your confidence will in turn make you more confident in interacting with them, etc.

I feel like I'm going overboard with this lol but seriously bro, your utter lack of confidence and sexual accomplishments pains me. You are in college...for most Western males college is a time of sexual conquest before a lifetime of sexual stagnation and starvation. Unless you plan on returning to your homeland and marrying an old-fashioned Ethiopian gal, you really need to make the most of the present.

[Deus Naturae]

As far as appearance, females are far less selective in that regard than us men. Even if you aren't great looking there are girls who don't care that much and some may be intrigued by your "exoticness" (assuming you're clearly African rather than a native black...even better if you have an accent). If you're indistinguishable from a homegrown brotha....let's just say there are plenty of girls who are into that too. As for your physique you're the only one stopping you on that front. Just hit the gym and eat right (ideally fresh fruits and vegetables, plenty of meat, and eggs...no junk or grains).

Since you say you're a bad conversationalist, I highly recommend this book. You may feel silly reading a book about how to talk to girls if you put in the effort I guarantee you this guys advice will help.

Finally, you should be irrationally self-confident. Don't try to delude yourself about your faults (though that certainly isn't your problem), and don't necessarily be a douchebag, just don't apologize or feel the need to make excuses. Act like the African pride male you are. Better to be too confident than too timid. Being confident in yourself will make you much more attractive to women, which is a positive feedback loop since their positive reactions to your confidence will in turn make you more confident in interacting with them, etc.

I feel like I'm going overboard with this lol but seriously bro, your utter lack of confidence and sexual accomplishments pains me. You are in college...for most Western males college is a time of sexual conquest before a lifetime of sexual stagnation and starvation. Unless you plan on returning to your homeland and marrying an old-fashioned Ethiopian gal, you really need to make the most of the present.

People on this forum really misuse the fedora thing. It's not really applicable to my post which had nothing to with arrogant atheism or MRA's.

[Deus Naturae]

Awkwardness, sedentariness and nerdiness are the first things that come to mind. I'm not particularly good looking either.

The first two can be worked on, the third can be attractive, the fourth...meh. Don't be so hard on yourself. That advice goes for me, too.

Adorkability is a factor, and attractiveness is subjective. The rest has already been well put.

Quote from Deus:  "It's not really applicable to my post which had nothing to with arrogant atheism"

Chastising and assuming sex is the normal thing all guys want in pure is a pretty arrogant assumption, and disregarding the religious standards regarding Chastity usually has very atheist angle. Ergo, that was some arrogant atheism against Varavour.

I never explicitly said that Simfan should engage in premarital sex (he should, but I'm not going to try to convince him to abandon his religious views). My advice regarding self-confidence, conversing with as many people as possible, and joining social clubs applies regardless.

[Deus Naturae]

Wait Libertas did you go to Xavier?

Edit: A forum search reveals that you did. LOL...I never thought I'd find a fellow alumnus on the Atlas Forum of all places. Sorry if we got off on the wrong foot.

[Deus Naturae]

As for the story, is this the Jewish boyfriend you referenced when you first requested to be unbanned? If so that's even more hilarious.

[Deus Naturae]

No, this guy predates the Jewish boyfriend I referenced. I never considered my involvement with him to be anything more than a fling.

Ironically, for anyone who knows my extreme Catholic past, the guys I've dated over the years have been disproportionately Jewish, which I suppose is a natural product of living in New York City.

And yes, I am an alumnus of Xavier High School, which I showed him since the restaurant we ate at was so close in Chelsea. He and his friend Cassie were very curious to know about Catholic school and what it is like, I just said it meant the school was mostly Irish and Italian, but they were remained intrigued and interested in me over going to Catholic schools. Amazing how religion divides people who live in the same city into totally different bubbles.

What year did you graduate? We may have been in school at the same time (we didn't know each other, but still).

[Deus Naturae]

I graduated in 2013, so I started the year after you left. Small world.

Are you two mating?

No, but if you still need help on that subject, there's still plenty of literature out there.

[Deus Naturae]

You don't actually have to read all of those books if you want to get laid lol. I just posted that link in jest since you seemed to enjoy his other works.