What's your excuse for not being in a relationship?

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

My relationships tend to not last long. I put too much effort into finding them and trying to make them work with guys who just don't want to be bothered putting any effort into it.

Plus men are disgusting pigs who pretend to "date" you but it's a game for them to see how few dates they need to get you to have sex with them before they stop responding to your texts and move on to their next 'conquest'.

Finding a relationship is hard enough, making it last is even harder.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

the one guy who I like (and he likes me) I haven't gotten the chance to ask out.

What's the hold up? Just ask him out if you already know he likes you. You're like at 95% of the process already while all of us are at 0% lol

Lol yeah if you like him and he likes you, and you both want a relationship, why is there nothing happening? It's much easier to find guys when you are in school. Out in the real world these days you have to rely on apps and websites to find guys (I suppose some people still go to bars to meet guys but not many) and trying to get to know random strangers through a phone app or computer is much more difficult than if you're going to school with someone. (And you tend to encounter creeps and liars and much worse things on the apps). You should consider yourself very lucky.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

the one guy who I like (and he likes me) I haven't gotten the chance to ask out.

What's the hold up? Just ask him out if you already know he likes you. You're like at 95% of the process already while all of us are at 0% lol

Lol yeah if you like him and he likes you, and you both want a relationship, why is there nothing happening? It's much easier to find guys when you are in school. Out in the real world these days you have to rely on apps and websites to find guys (I suppose some people still go to bars to meet guys but not many) and trying to get to know random strangers through a phone app or computer is much more difficult than if you're going to school with someone. (And you tend to encounter creeps and liars and much worse things on the apps). You should consider yourself very lucky.

Well, we didn't meet until the beginning of last semester (early September) and we've hanged out a bit and gotten to know each other, but neither of us is ready to make the move yet one step further.

I'm a "sophomore" in our LAMBDA group while he's only a freshman so it technically should be me who asks him out on a date, but I didn't have the guts to do it, and when I thought I was ready to do it one day, he wasn't at school that day. Luckily, we'll both be back this next semester and school starts back in about a week and a half.

The way I ended up with my last boyfriend was quite simple actually. We only hung out a couple of times before we unexpectedly cuddled/made out one night. My situation right now though isn't as simple since over the past 4 months we've gotten to become better friends than I did with the last guy.

But you're right guys, I shouldn't screw this up. :/ I have a great opportunity here.

You're only a sophomore in college and you have a guy with whom you share mutual attraction going to the same college? Yes, I would say you have a great opportunity!

Lol you must be pretty attractive to just have one boyfriend after another, your love life sounds a lot more successful than most (including mine ).

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

I'm really enjoying this guy and his stories. Please continue!

Well the story kinda ended cuz everyone I knew was telling me not to see him again. They didn't want me even going on the 2nd date. Plus I pissed him off because I had promised I would not drink or be high for our second date, and obviously I broke that promise. He said he had to pay for dinner and drinks and things and take care of me because I was his "little twink boy", but that didn't want to have to take care of me being drunk or high all the time and told me I should me I should go to rehab, which I took offense to. He complained that I kept repeating the same things over and over again during the memory loss from drug usage.

He did say he forgave me for throwing up all over his bed, because he said I probably threw up because of "what we were doing" which triggered my gag reflex, like I used to stick my finger down my throat to purge except in this case something bigger than a finger which was even more likely to trigger vomiting.

I showed my gf his YouTube videos, and she said I better not see him again and that she is screening all my future dates, and I was like f[inks] that. I actually liked his Boy Crazy Cabaret video, I would highly recommend viewing it if you're interested in a crazy gay Jewish pedophile guy singing in a psychadelic video. As I said, he is a very artsy type. She's working class Irish with a high school diploma a few years older than me, I told her she just didn't get art the way artsy gay Jews like this guy did.

Anyway people kept telling me was "grooming" me like a pedophile grooms children, I said that was ridiculous cause he was 21 and I was 23, but they were like age doesn't matter. I did look younger than him obviously, he said Jews had bad genes that made them age poorly, his friend Cassie said the same thing, he kept asking me about my ancestry and if I had any Nazi concentration camp guard relatives cause that would turn him on. I told him no and he was disappointed and would keep asking the question. So okay that was weird. But when I told this to the stupid friends of mine they were like "oh what if he's planning on some Jewish revenge fantasy where he gasses you" .

But he kept trying to pry into my ancestry cause he was like where did I get my perfect youthful Aryan genes from. I pointed out to him that I have brown eyes, so I'm not a perfect "Aryan" and he was like "oh I didn't even notice, why'd you tell me" and he suggested I get blue eye contact lenses. When I asked why he was like "cause it would make me happy". (He had very dark hair and eyes)

Anyway I argued, if this guy were in fact a pedophile, wouldn't it be better for me to date him and let him get his sexual release out on me, a legal adult, rather than have him go after actual underage boys but my friends were like it's not my job to protect little boys, I need to stop seeing this creep ASAP.

Our first date was at this organic restaurant in Chelsea, he was big on like organic and vegan things even though he wasn't vegan or even a vegetarian and we both ate overpriced organic meatloaf. I mentioned that I had gone to high school in Chelsea, and he said oh I want to see it, so we walked by it. So then they had me guilty thinking I had introduced a pedophile to a place to pick up little Catholic school boys from my old high school. But I really don't think he would bother making the trip from Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn to Chelsea, Manhattan, if he were a pedo there were plenty of little boys in Brooklyn to prey in.


I told this full story to my therapists. One of them is very big on being "non-judgmental" and not telling me what to do and he was like well you have to use your own judgement about whether to see the Jewish pedophile again. The other therapist said it sounds like this guy had some issues and I should avoid him, I mentioned that he was on Lamictal, which I knew was a mood stabilizer, and the psychologist asked if he was bipolar or something cause those are often the most creative people. I told the therapist that the guy (his name is Felix, I should have just established that from the beginning) told me that he was only on Lamictal to control seizures and he didn't want to become a drug addict like me.

Whatever, it's all over and in the past now. I think he did appreciate the tip about using Veet for hair removal even in sensitive regions, as long as you buy the women's sensitive and not men's Veet or Nair.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

As for the story, is this the Jewish boyfriend you referenced when you first requested to be unbanned? If so that's even more hilarious.

No, this guy predates the Jewish boyfriend I referenced. I never considered my involvement with him to be anything more than a fling.

Ironically, for anyone who knows my extreme Catholic past, the guys I've dated over the years have been disproportionately Jewish, which I suppose is a natural product of living in New York City.

And yes, I am an alumnus of Xavier High School, which I showed him since the restaurant we ate at was so close in Chelsea. He and his friend Cassie were very curious to know about Catholic school and what it is like, I just said it meant the school was mostly Irish and Italian, but they were remained intrigued and interested in me over going to Catholic schools. Amazing how religion divides people who live in the same city into totally different bubbles.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

If you are young, and you have both friends and occasional sex; I'm not really sure why you need to be in a relationship.

That's always a dilemma for me. I want a LTR and an actual boyfriend. Dates that turn out to be nothing more than hookups always make me more depressed in the end. Yet I don't want to meet 'the one' just yet and then be committed to one person for the rest of my life while only in my 20s.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

No, this guy predates the Jewish boyfriend I referenced. I never considered my involvement with him to be anything more than a fling.

Ironically, for anyone who knows my extreme Catholic past, the guys I've dated over the years have been disproportionately Jewish, which I suppose is a natural product of living in New York City.

And yes, I am an alumnus of Xavier High School, which I showed him since the restaurant we ate at was so close in Chelsea. He and his friend Cassie were very curious to know about Catholic school and what it is like, I just said it meant the school was mostly Irish and Italian, but they were remained intrigued and interested in me over going to Catholic schools. Amazing how religion divides people who live in the same city into totally different bubbles.

What year did you graduate? We may have been in school at the same time (we didn't know each other, but still).

Class of 2008, I still remember my graduation in Saint Patrick's Cathedral like it was yesterday. What year did you graduate?  

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

Are you two mating?

Yes, telling each other what year we graduated high school constitutes sexual intercourse. Right here on the Atlas Forum, which is supposed to be kid-friendly!

My gosh this forum really has gone to the prudes....

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

I have a boyfriend in spite of all my previous excuses for not having one, so I think you guys should end up fine.

Ah so you are another lucky one, how long have you two been together?

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

I have a boyfriend in spite of all my previous excuses for not having one, so I think you guys should end up fine.

Ah so you are another lucky one, how long have you two been together?

Just since September. I was mostly a closet case until then, too. So the last six months have definitely been transformative for me in a lot of ways. We met on Grindr and both of us are studying education at the same university, which has been awesome. I don't know how much time boyfriends are "supposed" to spend together, but we pretty much hang out every day, haha. We've had some rough times, but now we're at the stage where we're completely honest with each other, so we don't seem to have issues come up as often. I love him dearly.

But maybe talking about how happy I am in this particular thread isn't the most sensitive thing.

Ah you go to school together, just like the other guy in this thread who has boyfriends regularly, Lebron. It's such a major advantage to go to a university filled with similarly-aged people where you're bound to find genuine guys you can relate to and that you see regularly.

As opposed to the real world, where Grindr will introduce you to complete strangers who often turn out to be creeps and sometimes even rapists.

[Obnoxiously Slutty Girly Girl]

I have a boyfriend in spite of all my previous excuses for not having one, so I think you guys should end up fine.

Ah so you are another lucky one, how long have you two been together?

Just since September. I was mostly a closet case until then, too. So the last six months have definitely been transformative for me in a lot of ways. We met on Grindr and both of us are studying education at the same university, which has been awesome. I don't know how much time boyfriends are "supposed" to spend together, but we pretty much hang out every day, haha. We've had some rough times, but now we're at the stage where we're completely honest with each other, so we don't seem to have issues come up as often. I love him dearly.

But maybe talking about how happy I am in this particular thread isn't the most sensitive thing.

Ah you go to school together, just like the other guy in this thread who has boyfriends regularly, Lebron. It's such a major advantage to go to a university filled with similarly-aged people where you're bound to find genuine guys you can relate to and that you see regularly.

As opposed to the real world, where Grindr will introduce you to complete strangers who often turn out to be creeps and sometimes even rapists.

I see what you mean, but it can also be negative in that graduation is a thing. I'm not looking forward to the end of the school year... I mean, we'll keep it together for a bit, but if we end up in different cities, then it's pretty obvious what's going to happen.

Oh yeah I always forget to consider that. Mainly because I regret staying closeted throughout college, I went to a small liberal arts college and there was only like one gay guy that I knew of there but he was attractive and I wish I could have gotten to know him and maybe have become bfs with him. But then eventually graduation day would have come and we would both be returning to our home towns, or to graduate school, or to some other place, unless we were so madly in love that one decided to follow the other or both run away to a brand new locale unsure of our futures and what to do post-college. Or try to make it work long-distance, with Facebook and Skype, etc., but I don't think a long distance relationship would feel like a real relationship to me, personally speaking.

But, just live for the moment and enjoy the romance you have with your bf, most of us don't have a bf in the first place.