Mass shootings and “incel”-ism are symptoms of the same disease. Both of these are very antisocial behaviors
Was going to say something along these lines. People who commit acts of mass violence are wired to be seriously at odds with the society around them, and that doesn't translate well into forming good connections with other people (whether that be one's parents, friends, prospective partners or employers, or anything else one can think of).
The question is why don't they have a good relation with the society around them, and what drives them to do such a high-profile crime like this.