Would you be willing to have sex with a transgender person?

[Alben Barkley]

Well I think somebody had to make the definitive poll on the elephant in the room. There has been a LOT of talk lately about issues related to sexuality and gender identity, and whether or not it's "bigoted" for someone who is only attracted to a certain sex to "exclude" people based on their gender identity because it doesn't align with the sex they are normally attracted to.

I'm not going to comment on that here personally (though those of you who know me well enough probably have an idea of my stance). But I am going to leave a space open for just about every possibility I can imagine and for people to discuss/debate the issue here. So here goes...

[President of the great nation of 🏳️‍⚧️]

Ah sh**t, here we go again.

My answers:

Yeah, in part because it'd be hypocritical of me if I weren't. In fact, I don't know if I could date a cis woman, but it wouldn't be her fault and if I felt like I could be with her, I would. The main problem would be trying to get past my sh**tty mental health and accept that I'm not less than her because she's cis and I'm not, or paranoia that she sees me as a man and not a woman.

Like I said two years ago, yes, because to paraphrase Bonnie Tyler, while every now and then I know she'll never be the girl she always wanted to be, every now and then I know she'll always be the only girl who wanted me the way that I am. Doesn't really matter if she has bottom surgery or not, but I like my trans women with estrogen. For me, the more interesting question is whether I'd be willing to have sex with a cis person. The answer is still yes, provided I was convinced she saw me as me.

And on the more interesting question as to whether I would be willing to have sex with a cisgender person, to which, the answer is:

[P]robably. I won't reject cis women who express interest in me, but other trans women are theoretically easier to relate to. Same reason why I relate to Danielle Tozer from Dreadnought so much, in ways that I don't remember ever relating to other, cisgender fictional characters.
Plus, if I find Ms. Right and get monogamous and Ms. Right is trans, I can make fun of your remark about girldick and neovagina by saying I don't want someone with a boydick or a natalvagina.

Also, no post-op qualifier?

[Alben Barkley]

Ah sh**t, here we go again.

My answers:

Yeah, in part because it'd be hypocritical of me if I weren't. In fact, I don't know if I could date a cis woman, but it wouldn't be her fault and if I felt like I could be with her, I would. The main problem would be trying to get past my sh**tty mental health and accept that I'm not less than her because she's cis and I'm not, or paranoia that she sees me as a man and not a woman.

Like I said two years ago, yes, because to paraphrase Bonnie Tyler, while every now and then I know she'll never be the girl she always wanted to be, every now and then I know she'll always be the only girl who wanted me the way that I am. Doesn't really matter if she has bottom surgery or not, but I like my trans women with estrogen. For me, the more interesting question is whether I'd be willing to have sex with a cis person. The answer is still yes, provided I was convinced she saw me as me.

And on the more interesting question as to whether I would be willing to have sex with a cisgender person, to which, the answer is:

[P]robably. I won't reject cis women who express interest in me, but other trans women are theoretically easier to relate to. Same reason why I relate to Danielle Tozer from Dreadnought so much, in ways that I don't remember ever relating to other, cisgender fictional characters.
Plus, if I find Ms. Right and get monogamous and Ms. Right is trans, I can make fun of your remark about girldick and neovagina by saying I don't want someone with a boydick or a natalvagina.

Also, no post-op qualifier?

Personally, from what I have seen, I don't think the post-op genitals are usually convincing enough to truly change the equation for most people. (Never mind the whole reproductive factor, even if they are incredibly convincing.) That said, if anyone else thinks otherwise, they are of course more than welcome to vote and/or comment to that effect.

[NOVA Green]

I'm married and my wife is not trans, and I don't believe that she is planning on that anytime soon.

Naturally in the unlikely event that I outlive her, then who knows?

[Drew]

Yes, and I have in the past.

[Penn_Quaker_Girl]

Yup, in a heartbeat. 

[THG]

No. And under absolutely no circumstances would I ever even envisage performing such a grave sin.

[KoopaDaQuick 🇵🇸]

Alben, you making a thread to tell us you wouldn't f**k a trans person is redundant because I doubt that anyone, cis or trans, would like to voluntarily f**k you.

[President of the great nation of 🏳️‍⚧️]

Personally, from what I have seen, I don't think the post-op genitals are usually convincing enough to truly change the equation for most people. (Never mind the whole reproductive factor, even if they are incredibly convincing.) That said, if anyone else thinks otherwise, they are of course more than welcome to vote and/or comment to that effect.

Maybe, but the 2019 thread had cishet men who didn't do dick (as much as I want mine gone, what can I say except "your/their loss"?) but wanted to be supportive saying "oh, if she were post-op I'd consider it". I figure things aren't that much different since 2019, right? And even so, trans women's yonic Overton window are probably closer to cis women's now than they were then. But still, with cis people being the way they are, I can't imagine anyone giving a damn either way.