Discipline

[Alcon]

I am curious to see how this breaks down, especially by region.

[YRABNNRM]

None. I don't like gaining respect through fear and intimidation.

[Alcon]

None. I don't like gaining respect through fear and intimidation.

That's pretty much my view, too.  I prefer timeouts.  It's more like the discipline they will find/be able to utilise in the real world anyway.

[MasterJedi]

None. I don't like gaining respect through fear and intimidation.

That's pretty much my view, too.  I prefer timeouts.  It's more like the discipline they will find/be able to utilise in the real world anyway.

Same here.

[dazzleman]

I think controlled hitting can be called for under certain circumstances.  Timeouts are a pretty weak punishment, and most kids know it.  Under more extreme circumstances, something more dramatic can be called for.

There's a big difference between controlled hitting and beating.

I also think limited and controlled hitting is far from the worst thing a parent can do to a child.  Emotional abuse and neglect are far more damaging.

[Alcon]

I think controlled hitting can be called for under certain circumstances.  Timeouts are a pretty weak punishment, and most kids know it.  Under more extreme circumstances, something more dramatic can be called for.

There's a big difference between controlled hitting and beating.

I also think limited and controlled hitting is far from the worst thing a parent can do to a child.  Emotional abuse and neglect are far more damaging.

Maybe it's being an ADHD kid, but timeouts were infinitely worse to me than spanking could have ever been.  Besides, goofing off is part of being a kid.  If they are put in time out, they learn that their behaviours have negative consequences.  If they are spanked, they learn to relate those behaviours to being humiliated and physically hurt.

[MODU]

Spanking and mouth washing.  The other two items are more in lines with abuse rather than discipline.

[Wakie]

I believe that mouth washing and spanking can be used but only sparingly.  They should be the "nuclear bomb" of punishment for a child.

[John Dibble]

1, 2, and 3(on older children, and not an extreme slap - sorta like spanking, enough to hurt but not really more). However, these punishments should be reserved for extreme misbehavior - punishment should always fit the crime. Otherwise groundings, time outs, and other non-violent punishments are preferred.

[Frodo]

Probably options 1 thru 3, though I am more partial to the first two.

[Gabu]

None of the above.  There may be some rare cases where a child honestly is completely out of control for reasons that were totally not the parent's fault, but for the most part, these forms of discipline are most often an attempt to hide bad parenting skills, especially when the parent doesn't attempt to explain why it's being done.

[nclib]

None of the above. Parents should look to non-violent ways of disciplining their children.

[Alcon]

It's interesting than 72% of the U.S. supports spanking, but only 44% of the Forum.  Yet only 31% of the U.S. supports washing children's mouths out with soap, but 44% of the Forum does.

Obviously, some soap fetishists here.

[I spent the winter writing songs about getting better]

None

[Speed of Sound]

NOTA, what a horrible list of actions.

[MaC]

write-in: killing (the only way you can be totally sure they won't do it again)

[Josh/Devilman88]

1,2,3... 3 on older kids, but not like punching them in there face, but a little pop in on there lips or something like that.

Also young child tend to learn what is right and wrong to do from "pain." For say the "Don't touch the stove when it is one whole deal." So a nice good pops on the butt will help the understand that is wrong and if they don't want them again most likely they won't do it, or at least try not to.

[YRABNNRM]

A slap in the face seems so cheap and disrespectful to do to anyone.

[KEmperor]

A slap in the face seems so cheap and disrespectful to do to anyone.

Some women go for that.  Josh seems to have experience in that area.

[Josh/Devilman88]

A slap in the face seems so cheap and disrespectful to do to anyone.

Some women go for that.  Josh seems to have experience in that area.

What does that mean?

[afleitch]

A verbal warning followed by a light 'spank.' It never did me any harm when I was a child.

[WMS]

Spanking and mouth washing.  The other two items are more in lines with abuse rather than discipline.

Yep. And as Dibble said they should not be used for light offenses at that.

[Filuwaúrdjan]

None of the above; I could never hurt a child and I get angry when people do.
Anyone who votes for option four (so far no-one has) should be banned from having children.

[ian]

NOTA for me.

[ilikeverin]

I think controlled hitting can be called for under certain circumstances.  Timeouts are a pretty weak punishment, and most kids know it.  Under more extreme circumstances, something more dramatic can be called for.

There's a big difference between controlled hitting and beating.

I also think limited and controlled hitting is far from the worst thing a parent can do to a child.  Emotional abuse and neglect are far more damaging.

Maybe it's being an ADHD kid, but timeouts were infinitely worse to me than spanking could have ever been.  Besides, goofing off is part of being a kid.  If they are put in time out, they learn that their behaviours have negative consequences.  If they are spanked, they learn to relate those behaviours to being humiliated and physically hurt.

^^^^

Except, I'm not an ADHD kid (amazing, I know!).