This active distrust and dislike of atheists that's being discussed is sort of culturally alien to me. I obviously don't live in nearly as much of a resolutely secular bubble as Dule does, but New England is still one of the less-religious parts of the country at this point and I associate nosy overconcern with other people's irreligiosity mostly with the elderly and with transplants from the Midwest or South.
I come from the Bible Belt, and I’ve never heard anyone ask someone else their religion. It’s just not something you talk a lot about, and if you do, it’s like sports: if you’re not interested in it, then you still might have to listen to people talk about it a lot.
I mean, if I were an atheist, I wouldn’t go around telling people it here. But I’ve also kept a lot of my religious opinions on believer’s baptism and evolution in the closet, just because I know they would offend a good number of people, if not the majority. It’s not “oppression,” it’s just something you don’t say because it would offend people. That’s not evil suppression - here, at least, it’s just good manners.