To what extent would you be willing to date and/or marry a partner from a different racial group?

[Ferguson97]

Lean willing. I have only occasionally contemplated dating another race.

What are your reservations? Serious question.

I think RINO Tom may be on to something in that most of us may be genetically predisposed to being attracted to our own race. I have just rarely ever found a person of another race to be attractive. Not never, but rarely.

There is very likely some truth to this. Not that's absolute, but it could certainly have some impact on the calculations we make, subconciously.

I guess it varies from person to person. It's never been an issue for me really. I have a mild preference for Desi girls, but other than that it doesn't matter.

[Fuzzy Bear Loves Christian Missionaries]

If I were widowed, I would not likely remarry.  But if I did, race would be unimportant.  Being a Born-Again Christian would be exceptionally important, however.  I would never marry a woman who was not just an identifying Christian, but a COMMITTED Christian.

So you wouldn’t marry a committed and devout Episcopalian because she’s not evangelical?

Episcopalians can be Evangelical.   They could also be charismatic.  Much would depend on what the lady believed in who Jesus is and what a person must do to be saved.  What, exactly,  is the Gospel?  Any woman that I would marry would have to share the belief that one must be Born Again to be saved, and that Salvation is by Grace through Faith in Jesus Christ.   That's an issue of Eternal Significance.

[Xing]

I already did.

[Kamala's side hoe]

"Racial fetishization" I fear is one of those terms that Twitter warriors have slightly watered down, which is really unfortunate. It's a real thing, and please understand that I'm not trying to minimize that. That being said, I think it's legitimate and unproblematic to have sexual preferences towards specific ethnicities / cultures / whatever. I generally believe that, but I think it also makes sense for somebody who has spent time living amoungst a different ethnic group, and things like that.

For example, I spent a lot of time at my neighbour's house growing up, which was an Indian family. I also had a very serious relationship with a South Asian woman years ago. I got involved a little bit with the language and culture. After those two experiences, I've found that I generally find South Asian women to be more attractive. I couldn't tell you why exactly, but I don't see my situation or others like it to be automatically problematic.

We live in the age of social media, where people are allergic to nuance. If I had clout as an influencer, it wouldn't surprise me to see myself or somebody like me to be labelled as a fetishist. I guess what I'm really getting at here is, where does sexual preference end and fetishization begin? Where does unproblematic become problematic? I think it's an interesting topic. Personally - and this is a hot take maybe - I don't find Trump gravitating towards Slavic women to be problematic, and he probably knows or cares very little about those cultures. Maybe this discussion is divisive? I'm kind of curious.

Oh I've definitely put Subcontinental women on a pedestal lol. Being open to having romantic interests from different cultures isn't a bad thing. The problem is when someone's attraction for someone else is purely based on them being from a certain culture or ancestry, or if it arises from some sort of internalized dislike of one's own ancestry/culture group.

I don't like being fetishized by weeaboos and koreaboos because I am neither ethnic Japanese nor ethnic Korean, and it's insulting when your entire appeal to certain people comes from them thinking you're something that you're not. I'm also not a huge fan of contemporary Japanese or Korean pop culture, even though I'm mildly appreciative of some Japanese and Korean-language music and Netflix series.

This meme is a great TL;DR of racial fetishization from an East Asian-presenting woman's perspective

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