For unmarried people - by what age would you like to be married?

[HagridOfTheDeep]

I want to fall in love, not decide to be in love due to other constraints. Unfortunately I'm kind of realizing that a lot of the relationships around me are ones of convenience. "The guy asked me out, so I felt obliged to give him a chance. I learned to love him."

You can imagine that the friend zone is a bit of a problem for me. But asking someone out randomly when I know nothing about the person just seems so incomprehensible.

[HagridOfTheDeep]

You don't plan anything like this; marriage happens when it happens (and unhappens when it needs to happen too) To think otherwise, or to try and plan it out is a bit strange.

I'm a bit mixed on this. Yes you are entirely right that we can't force marriage to happen, but there are also a lot of things one can do to create conditions favourable to marriage. The sort of people we date at 21 often aren't the same sort of people we date at 27.

Isn't that why marriage at 21 isn't always the best idea?