Nations and countries are pretty arbitrary constructs though. Unlike your family.
That is a good point. Probably "community" is a better word. An interesting book I had to read for a class my freshman year of college put forth the theory that all nations are "
imagined communities."
It was an fascinating read.
Still, I think that a nation is an extended community that you should, under ordinary circumstances, be loyal to. And when your government is evil or committing wrong, you are being especially loyal to your nation by opposing that government.