Bushie: The Final Frontier - Update Season V

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Didn't come to the thread for a couple days, noticed it six pages longer new something happened but wow...


Anyway Bushie, with all due respect to your father, his advice has been quite poor at times, that leap of faith thing was ridiculous.

This perhaps is another one of those.  Now it makes absolutely no sense for you to keep the home in Oklahoma while you rent and work in Utah and as a result have a negative cash flow which puts the burden on your parents.  I can absolutely see why he has an issue with that, and it makes sense, especially when doing so makes their financial situation more difficult.  

From what it sounds like is your parents have been helping you out for a long time (and likely much longer than they should have), and they are very close to not being able to do so financially anymore.   However, the whole leaving your job you are working at to move back home jobless, doesn't make much sense.  Honestly, there are only two possibilities that make sense of why you should do this.  One is you will go home to seek some type of mental health treatment.  

The other is if even after having a short sale and freeing yourself from the mortgage obligation, your rent and other expenses in Utah are greater than what your take home pay and as a result your parents.

If you are seeking treatment or your financial situation is still a disaster even after the short sale his advice makes sense.  If not your best bet is to keep your job and stay where you are, but get the hell out of the house situation.

Also short sales, can take time.  I work in the Industry so I know what I am talking about regarding this.  Yes, its certainly possible that it can be done in a couple months as your agent stated.  You find a buyer soon, get into contract and they either pay cash or go with a decent mortgage company it can get done even in a month.  HOWEVER, the potential issue is your current bank.  The bank that holds your mortgage has to agree to the short sale and let you sell the property for less than what you owe.  Sometimes its a quick and a matter of weeks, other times it can drag on for six months or more, it all depends on your current bank and what they are willing to agree to.

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Anyway, lets change the subject.  Enough of the attacks.  I will be fine.  I've been fine for many years.  My life is not screwed up like has been previously mentioned.  I am a little impulsive on the decision making, but it doesn't mean I have bad judgement, nor do my parents.  God has seen me through many mistakes in the past and I have no doubt He will see me through this one, which I still don't think its a mistake.  Its not the choice I would have made on my own.  If it were all up to me, which it shouild be, but is not then I would be heading to work in about 6 hours and would have extended my apartment lease another six months.  Anyway, I've got a busy weekend ahead, but I do plan on getting started looking on Sunday.  I've got several places to call tomorrow and we're going to Shawnee as a family for lunch at Cracker Barrel and a trip to Walmart.  Saturday is a lot of rearranging and getting my room ready to go.  I will be looking online as well the next two evenings.  I do plan on looking really heavy next week.

Let's be clear.  I did not want to come back to Oklahoma and I was prepared to suspend the job search for the next 12-18 months and continue on with the status quo.  I enjoyed my job in Utah and I worked for the best boss anybody could ever ask for.  Since my parents are helping me out, I could not turn my Dad down.  Mom thinks I should have given it another 6-9 months, at minimum, but Dad overpowered both of us.  Oh well, what's done is done and two wrongs don't make a right, so I am going to find a job as fast as I can, and try to be into an apartment of my own by Christmas if not the Autumn.

Bushie,

The above is a major part of your problem.  You refuse to admit the decision making and the judgement of you and your parents have been wrong.  They have been wrong, period.  Being well intentioned (which I'm sure it is) doesn't mean the decision making or the judgement is right.  You aren't going to get it right unless you learn from your mistakes, and you can never learn from the mistakes unless you admit you made them, until you admit the Judgement was wrong. 

Also, the God will see you through this stuff has got to stop.  This isn't meant as an attack on your religion since I'm sure that is what you are going to complain about.  This is more about you relying on YOURSELF more than anything about God, your parents or anyone else. 

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What is your waist size, Bushie?

In Jeans size, I wear 40, but they are just a tad big, but 38's a just a tad small.  I'd say probably 39.

Bulls***.  I am about the same height as you (perhaps slightly taller), you outweigh me by more than 100lbs, and I wear a 31 or 32.  No way or you even in the zipcode of a 39 or 40.