To those that know about my "situation"...

[NOVA Green]

Are you a good student knowing for speaking out in an informed fashion in class?

You may wish to ask her if she wants to meet you for a study session in the closest campus coffee shop. It would be non-threatening, demonstrate some level of interest, while also allowing you as a "shy person" (I'm still getting used to that one!) to ask her out without being too forward.

It wasn't uncommon at all when I was going to school to have study dates with other students in class w/o any weirdness.

Granted if you have a really large class, and aren't particularly outspoken in class, which I would find to be a stretch, she might not even know who you are and you'll just have to try something else.

[NOVA Green]

This conversation cannot happen without pics.

Also, what's wrong with just talking to the woman?  It's not that difficult.

I get very, very shy. I kind of talked to her yesterday. I won't explain why it was "kind of" talking. 

I have class with her tomorrow. We'll see what happens.

The forum consensus seems to be that you just have to start talking to her, a strategy that you support in theory.

Now you just have to back it up with action or wind up with more posts from this thread on the "Comedy Goldmine" thread.

Good luck!

[NOVA Green]

The forum consensus seems to be that you just have to start talking to her, a strategy that you support in theory.

Everyone is so tough and so smooth on the Internets. 

Hey, it's easy for me to give dating advice to my friends, now that I'm married.

Most of my guy friends are currently single, so trust me, this hasn't been that unusual lately 

[NOVA Green]

I have a bit of a funny story about this that I can tell later. I have another chance on Monday (the day of our final) so I have to hope I get there early, she gets there early and we sit next to each other and talk before the test.

The last thing some girl wants to talk about is a relationship on the day of the final.

I'm not talking about a relationship though. How has that not been clear? I need to actually talk to the girl for awhile first.

Anyway, here's what happened on Wednesday...

I'm running late (almost like always) and hurrying to get to class. I'm walking up the steps and hear someone as "Are you Phil Innamora...?" I stop and think to myself, "Oh God, it's her. Oh, thank God!" I turn around. I see that it's a girl. I see that she has the long, brown, kind of curly hair. I look at her and think, "Oh my God, it's her!"





Except it wasn't. I stare blankly at the girl for a few seconds and then realize that it was this girl I went to high school with. I was so disappointed.

I get to class. I end up sitting almost directly behind her and nothing happens. I tried waiting around after class. We were doing professor evaluations but once they started, she went outside to talk to the professor. I finished mine, acted like I was still doing it for a minute more and then just left. As I was leaving, I saw her outside talking to the professor. I'm guessing that she's struggling in the class. Damn me. That could have been my in with this girl weeks ago but I wasn't paying that much attention then. I would always see her and think, "Wow, she's hot" but really nothing more. I guess I was so wrapped up with other things (the campaign and stuff) that I didn't care to pursue anything. The whole damn semester down the damn toilet.

Oh, well. Hail Mary pass on Monday, guys. We'll see.

Good luck on the Hail Mary... maybe show up a little earlier than usual with a package of study notes and if you end up sitting next to her, ask if she wants to review any of your awesome prepackaged notes before the test. If she is truly struggling in class she might well appreciate the help.

When I was working on my Masters a few years back I had multiple individuals ask if I wanted to be study partners because I usually knew my material and spoke up often in class in an intelligent fashion. I accepted most of the invites (not because I was into any school romance since I was married to my previous wife at the time) but because it helped me keep ahead of the material.

It can be hard to meet people in a classroom setting, particularly if you are an undergrad with a larger class size, but not impossible and the one thing that you definitely have in common is school, and most likely social sciences.

If you do end up talking to her before finals, you might always consider asking what classes she is taking next term, favorite professors, etc....

I wish you the best on your endeavors.

[NOVA Green]

I'm shy to begin with but I've also had some pretty embarrassing experiences when it comes to telling certain girls that I like them. I tended to like the very popular, out of my league types in grade school. It was always "so cute" but nothing more to them. My crushes became the worst kept secrets in my grade.

Why do you have to tell them that you like them? Couldn't you just flirt with them and then once they've gotten to know you, ask them out?

I'm not saying that I have to tell them my feelings right away. I'm still nervous though. I think she may have an idea that I like her. I see her around at times and she probably notices me looking at her. The other day in the computer lab, I looked over and she was about to sit down at a computer. We made eye contact for a second or two and then I turned my head immediately. I think that was probably a weird sign to her.

Not necessarily... If you were at the computer lab working on a paper it would actually be fairly normal behavior to glance over and look when someone sits down nearby. It would be a little stranger to stare at her for 5-10 seconds.

If you do get to sit next to her during the finals, asking her if she is planning on taking "Class X" next term with the same professor would certainly be a way to break the ice in a non-threatening manner. You could then bring up your major, ask what her major is, talk about school, etc which will lay the groundwork for starting a conversation next time you see her, since it probably won't go much further than that on finals day with vacation coming up... although hopefully it will and if we don't see you around on this board for a few weeks over the break that will be a good sign