Although I will not comment on the direct question at hand, what i will day is that as a Teenager coming of age in the Mid/Late '80s and early '90s, there were certain music artists and songs that were quite popular at the time:
Depeche Mode: Obviously their '84 Album "Some Great Reward" and their single "Master and Servant" helped create a certain theme that was quite popular among not only the LGBT community at the time, but also straight Americans....
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Master_and_ServantVelvet Underground: "Venus in Furs" certainly ties into a certain style of subculture, in their first breakthrough album way back in '67.
Remember listening to the cassette tape for the first time back in the late '80s after having puffed a "J".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Velvet_Underground_%26_NicoOne of my best Female friends from High School was way into
Nine Inch Nails, as part of the Punk-Goth subculture and has been happily married to another Woman for some 15-20 Yrs....
Anyways, pick your genre, your, music, your lifestyle, and go with.... it's not like anything is fixed. It's about who you love and what you chose to do in the privacy of your own home.
But hell, if you wanna have some fun, play some tunes and do some consensual Cos-Play with your partner, just make sure you just give them a heads up, because otherwise you might lose the affection of your partner, and potentially even worse if they aren't into the role playing session....