THIS IS GOING TO BE LONG AND RAMBLE-Y AND PERHAPS INCOMPREHENSIBLE AND I APOLOGIZE.
Not sure why feminism is such a bad word.
I consider "feminism" as a term, and as a movement, unnecessary in 2013, and needlessly divisive and negative in general. I don't believe in the "patriarchy" and I don't believe in "rape culture." I don't think modern feminism is at all well equipped to handle the issues it's supposed to be solving, because as a movement it seems to waste more time complaining about things and finding people to blame, rather than coming up with actual solutions.
Latter day feminists fought for the right to vote and for social equality to men, and modern day feminists fight over the cover of People magazine and whether or not women are well represented in video games. It's such a dead-ender movement at this point that represents more of a petty special interest group than a real social movement.
I mean, just look at this thread for one reason I dislike feminism. Is it really about "equality of the sexes"?
The name itself perpetuates gender roles by dividing individuals between masculine/feminine. Is that implying that feminine values are superior to masculine values? How does that lead to equality?
I believe in gender equality; the idea that men and women should be treated the same and have equal rights and privileges. That a woman should be able to treat me like anyone else, and I should be able to treat a woman like anyone else. That if I make a joke about a guy, and no one bats an eye at it, I should be able to make the same joke about a woman, or use the same terminology toward a woman, without someone getting creeped out and defensive by it. That idea is what gender equality means to me, and what I think it
actually means. Instead, feminism is a movement that purports to support gender equality by only obsessively focusing on the needs/supposed-needs of only their gender.
Men have actual, checkable problems when it comes to being treated equally in society as well, but feminists don't really seem to bothered by it. Men get charged more for car insurance. Men get sentenced more severe punishments than women for equivalent crimes. Men are disproportionately sided against in custody cases. Domestic violence against men is widespread, but not taken nearly as seriously. Significantly more women graduate college than men do, and this is hailed as a great thing; but how is that equal? Shouldn't we be doing more to encourage
men to enter higher education and graduate?
Feminism has no interest in solving those things, because it doesn't view them as that significant of a problem. That's just past 'male privilege' finally getting it's comeuppance.
There's also the fact that feminism seems to have this bizarre, prudish attitude toward accepting male and female sexuality, and sees any sexualized content in pop culture as somehow and without exception, demeaning to women. (Which leads me to believe that feminism seems to have utter contempt for women; apparently all expressions of female sexuality are just because they're silly, stupid girls just trying to serve men? Women can't be sexual in their own right?)
I hate throwing out random words from a word salad that some people probably think has no meaning; but I'm an egalitarian. Problems between the sexes will be solved when everyone simply treats them the same, irrespective of the sex. This isn't a "women's issue" it's a human issue. When individuals here grow up, and potentially have children (a frightening thought, perhaps), don't raise your children by saying "Timmy, don't you
ever hit a woman." Raise them by saying "Timmy, don't you ever hit
anyone."
Perhaps what is most destructive to this conversation is that feminists have successfully made mainstream the notion that nothing a man says can ever be considered in this conversation, unless, of course, you agree with them wholeheartedly.