I dislike the liberalization of sexuality. I mean I don't think people are bad because they engage in it, even if common, as long as it is all consensual, but I think people are better off not doing so. I think commonly engaging it will just increase likelihood of disease, unwanted pregnancies, desire to cheat on your spouse, lack of trust among couples, etc.
I think it is perfectly fine if the people are in love, but I think it is most optimal post marriage. I also strongly dislike divorce and think marriage should be life long.
That all said, I of course oppose laws mandating any of these types of things. People should live as they want as long as no one is harmed, however I think we can still set good examples and show people what is the best path and why it is the best path. I think purity in this manner will ultimately result in a greater long term happiness, even if it means a current denial of pleasure seeking.
I know in this I am way outside of mainstream. But I do think some of the ills of modern society would be solved if we have a more pure image of sexuality instead of such a liberal one. At the very least, it should be a private matter instead of being in every single aspect of our lives. Even if you try to avoid it, it is difficult. Basically there are only a handful of television programs or movies you can watch and well, you have to be incredibly careful on the internet if you wish to not expose yourself or others to such things that should stay private.
I respect that position, but completely disagree with the hypothesis.
I spoke to a friend who is a sexuality studies lecturer, and I think in many ways, the reason why there is a greater expression of sexuality and sexual confidence goes back to the repression of female sexual confidence as well as other sexual orientations.
The world hasn't gone to hell in a handbasket because of greater sexual liberation, there's no evidence to suggest that. What HAS happened is because women are more independent and sexually confident and people who identify away from the norm are more open and increasingly accepted (all good things in my book) - you have people selling to them.
People act like sex, adultery, rape, paedophila, etc etc never happened before the sexual revolution... but they most certainly were. Keeping things 'quiet' makes sedate and smug middle-class suburbanites happy... but there are worse consequences to forcing people with perfectly natural sexual expression into the shadows, than being open about sexual diversity.
The only reason there is even the concept of 'pure' sexuality, is because a bunch of kill-joys decided that such a concept made it much harder to control people. If you control people's most base-urges ... you control the society.
Also, something there is evidence for, is when people who are perfectly healthy in a psycho-sexual sense, are forced to repress those feelings are unable to express them in a perfectly healthy (and legal way)... they have a tendency to mutate into something ugly. Human beings are sexual creatures, just as most of our primate and mammalian cousins are too...
We don't need to treat sexuality as if it's the most interesting part of the human condition, because it's not... but to treat it as something shameful or unpleasant IS a dangerous thing to do.
