actually, there was an article in one of the free papers yesterday (I forget which one) about an organization for asexuals in the city. it was interesting. I have only met one bona-fide asexual in my life. his name is bill, and he was a very nice, but neither straight nor gay, man. apparently there are many others. Here is a link to one organization so you can hook you up with other asexuals. (Just so you don't think that abstinence is necessarily a choice.)
http://www.asexuality.org/home/ah, here it is. not in one of the free papers, but in one of the real ones:
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/06/09/fashion/thursdaystyles/09asexual.html?8hpib