Spartz's personal connection to the conflict makes her seeming inconsistency on this more understandable, not less.
That her harshest public comments about Zelensky and his war policies have been made in Ukrainian, to Ukrainian media, tells me that these opinions are sincere and not just a cynical sop to her constituents.
Also, no, we don't need to pull another gendered insult out of porn.
I agree, it's utterly ridiculous to pull a bizarre, sexual insult out for somebody whose friends and family are caught in this conflict. From that perspective, "stop the carnage" is the only reasonable view.