I told my mom the other night about my intention to remain single and celibate for the rest of my life. Her first response? That I need hormone therapy because it's "not normal" and "guys at your age think about sex all the time!"
Oh yeah, and that I'm "selfish" apparently.
fml
I'd take that selfish thing as a compliment.
How so?
I mean, I'm not even sure what's exactly selfish about not wanting to put my burdens on another person my entire life, which is as I explained part of my reasoning. I think that maybe she was expecting to have grandchildren one day but since I'm her only child she knows that's probably out of the question at this point. Maybe that's not what she's thinking, but if it is, then it kind of makes that accusation of 'selfishness' a little ironic...
The way you take it as a compliment is a little inappropriate.
Anyway, that probably is what she's thinking. Also, you make decisions for you, and no one else can do that. If you feel you can become a better person by doing this, then you should. I personally hold the belief that people aren't built to live life alone, and should have someone to help them through, and to help them through.
My last bit of knowledge I can give you is this: problems are what relationships are for. Whether they be yours, hers, or come up later down the line. Love isn't for the good times, and isn't there so you can feel good. It's there so you can be there when times get tough, and you have someone there for you when times get tough.
Of course, not wanting to way anyone down with your problems is a noble pursuit, but you are underselling you. Here's my favorite quote from Dr Seuss: "you are you, and that's truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you."
My friend, you are misunderstanding your worth, that's the root of your problem. Not that your a good person, and you are considering your willing to put aside your happiness for someone you might not know, but that you don't know that there won't be another Ascott who ever lives. You tell yourself that your not worth the effort, but that simply isn't true.
You are worth it all.
