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Potus2036
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« on: June 12, 2014, 10:58:49 PM » |
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So, I'm not an Update person but I read from time to time. I'm just gonna go ahead and chime in here.
First of all, I'm just going to address one of the fundamental problems. Bushie, I'm real godd[inks]n skinny. Like, when you look at me the first thing you think is, "Christ, he's skinny." And it's honestly my worst trait. I've been dissatisfied with it for years. While "society" screamed and yelled about how skinny people are Satan because the morbidly obese aren't on magazines, I was catching flak both sides for being skinny and being an abnormal weight.
The message with that is two-part. You can't let your perception of your weight be rationalized by the enablers and you can't let your perception be demeaned to a point beyond self-help. You need to assert that you do, completely and entirely, have a problem. That's gonna be step one. Second, you are not beyond saving if you try. That's gotta happen too.
I was repulsively skinny and I did the two things above. Then I adjusted my eating habits and I've been gradually putting on weight ever since. I took up a form of very mild exercise and just did it a lot. I could do it with friends, or while I listened to music, or while I talked on the phone, or anything really. I just made some little changes to my life and I've been yielding results ever since.
Trust me, Bushie, the urge to stop eating because you're way-way-way too full is much stronger than the urge to eat. If I could work against my "Really Tall and Anorexic Looking" genes to start achieving normal weight, you can work against whatever issue you think you have. You actually have to want it. And "I'm doing the best I can" is not a valid answer. You have to actually do it, whether that's better than your best or not. It doesn't matter. You have to do it and there is no way around it.
I also fail to comprehend your inability to find even part-time employment. Now, this might be the effect of me not being a very close reader of the Update but, finding part-time employment is actually really easy. Even if it is a minimum wage, 10 hours a week thing, that is definitely better than nothing. I think you, someone who I believe has had some kind of post-secondary training, could at a bare minimum find a minimum wage job for 20 hours a week. Bushie, that's $147 gross weekly pay. That is sure as hell better than nothing.
Finding any sort of work, Bushie, is better than nothing. Not just from a financial perspective. From a moral and psychological perspective. You will not be happy, you will not be successful, and you will die a pathetic, miserable, lonely death if you do not find some sort of spiritual sustenance. That spiritual sustenance comes from work, comes from pride, and comes from making something yourself. When you stop saying you're doing your best so it's okay, then you'll start becoming someone who deserves the help of others.
Bushie, the student loan thing is a wreck and it's, honestly, a moral hazard. I think you're finally realizing that your current existence is not just financially, physically, and socially pathetic and worthless, I think you're beginning to understand the sheer immorality of your way of life. That's why you "faith" seems to be coming up more recently. You're trying to cover up the moral hazard that you're becoming more cleanly aware of.
A new set of excuses isn't going to save you, Bushie. It's not going to make your life better. It's not going to get you the money to actually get married. It's not gonna build the house for you to live in with your new wife. It's not going to do anything but enable a self-destructive, morally repulsive, pathetic lifestyle.
I've been nice with this one. I'm just hoping that you'll adopt some of the ideas I proposed and try to help yourself. Honest-to-god help yourself. I don't want any human life to go to waste so I want you to succeed Bushie. I've been nice this time. But if you don't get your act together and make yourself count, I'm not going to be nearly as kind and supportive next time.
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