Sex education is okay, theoretically. Contraception and abortion are the same thing, except one is far more violent. Banning things actually does cause the rate to decrease. The value of life is not predicated on what will unfold. The good that comes from banning abortion is the end to murdering children. I'm not sure how this is "controlling women," that talking point has never made sense to me even when I was sympathetic to your view.
They’re literally not, even if you are opposed to both for similar reasons. Abortion is terminating a foetus, contraception just prevents fertilisation. By your logic, masturbation and wet dreams are “the same thing” as abortion.